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Pursue Love Deliberately!

Love, Dating and Relationship Advice by Seattle Millionaire Matchmaker Sophia Andreeva

 
Author: adminsophia Created: 2/20/2008 10:47 PM RssIcon
If you ever asked yourself one of the following questions, it’s worth reading our blog! -- Why do you choose the same type of partner over and over again? -- Why partners change so much after having sex? Why are you attracted to the opposites? -- Why your relationships change after having sex and after we get married? -- What is chemistry and how different is it from love? -- How to break your pattern? -- How to attract the type of partner you want? -- How to turn wounds of the past into your purpose for the future? -- How to be in sync with the opposite sex? -- How to interview your potential match as a professional matchmaker? -- Why do you need to be intentional and to have a plan to achieve your love goals?
By adminsophia on 10/15/2010 3:43 PM
Begin forwarded message:

From: xxxxx@yahoo.com

Date: October 15, 2010 2:10:54 PM PDT

To: SOPHIA MCDONALD

Subject: Fwd: referral for Sophia McDonald

Hi Joie,

Beautiful name by the way!

Back in September, Sophia mentioned that you had asked for references, and I apologize that between travel and work and children, I've not been as timely in responding as I had hoped to be



 

 

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By adminsophia on 9/2/2010 12:27 PM
What people have to say about matchmaking and coaching services provided by me:) Letters like this make my heart smile:) XO

"Dear Sophia, I would like to thank you again for speaking to me yesterday and giving me a lift. It will take a little bit of time to heal but one of the best advice was that God had something better planned for me than I originally did. All of your advices were great!! I will definitely try to keep in contact and work on my healthy boundaries. Thanks again Sophia and have a great day! "It takes two to tango, but one to fall" - July, 2010, Male, 25yo, Austin, TX 



"He is great! Thank you for asking.  He adores me, which is something I haven't experienced since my 1st husband.  He came in a package I didn't expect -- but you really helped me see that the things I was looking for in men and what I was attracted to were not making me happy.  I would never have met him without your help with my pictures & profile, encouragement to start dating again, and the coaching. So, thank you!  :)" - August 2010, Female, 43yo, Seattle, WA

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By adminsophia on 8/20/2010 5:02 PM

“We search for happiness everywhere, but we are like Tolstoy’s fabled beggar who spent his life sitting on a pot of gold, under him the whole time. Your treasure–your perfection–is within you already. But to claim it, you must leave the buy commotion of the mind and abandon the desires of the ego and enter into the silence of the heart.”

"To lose balance sometimes for love is part of living a balanced life"

"You gotta stop wearing your wishbone where your backbone oughtta be"

“Faith is walking face-first and full-speed into the dark”

‘I once recognized myself as a friend’

By adminsophia on 8/20/2010 4:53 PM
Written by Melissa Wadsworth What You Notice Matters

What You Notice Matters! And, what I've noticed is that I'm intuiting that we are in an energetic period of grace in the waning days of summer. This is an important time that can make all the difference to how your fall season forms. I've been sensing that many of us are in a "holding" pattern right now and that things are going to dynamically change up come September. It's not holding as in "doing nothing" It's about being in the moment, being observant and appreciating the grace of planning and prepping time.

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By adminsophia on 8/11/2010 2:49 PM
By Rori Raye http://www.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/relationship/get-your-man-to-open-up.html

Have you ever experienced this? Things are going well with your guy. So well, as a matter of fact, that when you start feeling insecure about something or want to share something you think he'll perceive as “negative”, you keep it inside. You're afraid that by being honest with him, you'll rock the boat.

Truth: Men Are Able To Open Up And Share - With The Right Woman Here's the incredible secret I learned that turned my love life around and brought me the closeness with a man I had always hungered for. A man doesn't like emotional intensity or hidden tension. That kind of “drama” pushes a man away and makes him want to clam up and withdraw. In order to feel comfortable, a man needs to know...
By adminsophia on 8/11/2010 2:46 PM
Written by Rori Rayer http://www.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/media/tools/Mantra_Translations_Tools.pdf

   1. THE RORI RAYE MANTRA TO INSTANTLY CONNECT WITH A MAN Trust Your Boundaries Follow Your Feelings Choose Your Words Be Surprised I trust my boundaries - I trust myself: I know I will not knowingly toss my pearls before swine, throw myself into the path of destruction, hide from the truth, go along with or tolerate something that is damaging to me. Now I can move to my feelings.

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By adminsophia on 8/11/2010 2:42 PM
Give yourself credit for trying to find the best qualities that your partner has to offer, starting new relationships with an open mind and being positive is a great way to start off, but when you are making decisions that affect your life long term looking at only the best qualities that a person has to offer may cause you to overlook their worst ones and those could be the ones that break your relationship and have a negative impact on your life.

These are three signs that you might be in denial about your relationship:  

 

 

1. You are always avoiding introducing your partner to your friends because you feel that they will not be supportive to you and what

they are going to say you don't want to hear. If you think that you can predict your friends' doubts and objections to you dating that person then maybe there is a big chance that you are experiencing some of those same doubts about your partner as your friends would be if they met. If you are not willing to introduce...
By adminsophia on 7/29/2010 11:33 AM
Dating Down Why Less Attractive Men Make Better Mates July 27, 2010 By Elise Nersesian-Solé

My friend Karen is a gorgeous, tall, auburn-haired beauty with measurements that would put Barbie to shame. And although she has her pick of hot guys to choose from, she's currently in a committed relationship with a man who's pushing 5'6", balding and could afford to park 15 pounds. And she couldn't be happier. Their pairing is not an anomaly. All one has to do is step out onto the street or flip through a gossip rag to see a great beauty stepping out with her beast. From couples such as J. Lo and Mark Anthony, Beth Ostrosky and Howard Stern, Salman Rushdie, and well, anyone, one thing is clear: Physically-mismatched couples are everywhere. 



Sure, these guys have money and power — a trait evolutionary biologists say women place great value on — yet scientists say when not accounting for these factors, these female hotties may be onto something deeper. A recent study published in the Journal...
By adminsophia on 6/18/2010 1:14 AM
Article Source: http://www.altruists.org/ideas/psychology/fear_or_love/

"The single most important decision any of us will ever make is whether or not to believe the universe is friendly." ~Albert Einstein

Fear and Love are two of the most basic and powerful human emotions. As they spread from person to person, they can inspire such extremes of behaviour as killing one another or dying for one another. Considering that the fundamental importance of love is so widely agreed upon, it is remarkable how many organisations seem dedicated to promoting its opposite: fear. "There is no fear in love: true love has no room for fear."



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By adminsophia on 6/18/2010 1:10 AM
By Gary Wilson and Marnia Robinson   http://www.entelechyjournal.com/robinsonwilson.htm Various spiritual teachings, such as A Course in Miracles,[1] say that there are only two fundamental emotions: love and fear. For the body, this is true. All mammals, including humans, have two opposing hormonal responses to stimuli. Threatening stimuli cause an increase of stress hormones - adrenaline and cortisol. Soothing or reassuring stimuli cause an increase in oxytocin. A sudden threat triggers the fight-or-flight response associated with adrenaline. Adrenaline steps up heart rate, increases respiration, activates muscles, and promotes hyper-alertness. Longer-term stress (from a few minutes to days and weeks) increases a different stress hormone: cortisol. Cortisol, too, makes us hyper-vigilant, but its evolutionary functions are quite different than the temporary jolt of adrenaline designed to propel us out of danger. The stress...
By adminsophia on 6/18/2010 12:51 AM
Article source: http://www.lhj.com/relationships/marriage/basics/secrets-of-super-happy-couples/

Why do some couples seem so head-over-heels? It's not that their lives are any easier or more perfect than yours-- but they do know how to keep the daily grind from eroding their relationship. Get some of what they have by incorporating these happy-couple strategies into your love life. 1. Fall in love all over again. Make a conscious decision to be in love. The more you act as if you are in love, the more you will feel like you are.... See More 2. Remember the good times. Treat your partner like you did at the beginning of your relationship. Make a list of all the things you used to enjoy doing together and add any new fantasies to the list. Plan for them and make them happen. 3. Help your partner feel more loved and secure in your love so that he or she can open up to you and express feelings...
By adminsophia on 6/8/2010 11:54 PM

I am asked often to share some good stories about people finding their perfect match. I meet men and women, old and young, tall and short, of all kind shapes and colors… And they all have one thing in common – they want to love and to be loved…

They come to me, often after loosing a hope and faith that that special person even exists… Sometimes they are ready and sometimes they are not… To let love in – first you need to have your heart wide open… It took me a long time to figure it out…

I definitely have a supreme intuition when it comes to heart matters… Very often the first introduction I make is the only one and people leave me holding hands with the love of their life…

By adminsophia on 6/6/2010 11:13 PM
From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia Not to be confused with Love triangle. This article includes a list of references, related reading or external links, but its sources remain unclear because it lacks inline citations. Please improve this article by introducing more precise citations where appropriate. (December 2009) The triangular theory of love is a theory of love developed by psychologist Robert Sternberg. The theory characterizes love within the context of interpersonal relationships by three different components:

1.Intimacy – Which encompasses feelings of closeness, connectedness, and bondedness. 2.Passion – Which encompasses drives that lead to romance, physical attraction, and sexual consummation. 3.Commitment – Which encompasses, in the short term, the decision to remain with another, and in the long term, the shared achievements and plans made with that other. The “amount” of love one experiences depends on the absolute strength of these three components; the “type” of love one experiences depends on their strengths relative to each other. Different stages and types of love can be explained as different combinations of these three elements; for example, the relative emphasis of each component changes over time as an adult romantic relationship develops. A relationship based on a single element is less likely to survive than one based on two or three elements....
By adminsophia on 6/1/2010 7:50 PM
"Love has nothing to do with the five senses and the six directions: its goal is only to experience the attraction exerted by the Beloved.

Afterwards, perhaps, permission will come from God: the secrets that ought to be told will be told with an eloquence nearer to the understanding than these subtle confusing allusions. The secret is partner with none but the knower of the secret: in the skeptic's ear the secret is no secret at all."  ~ Rumi



WHAT IS LOVE: Magnetic field with electro potential – zero point field – the field of the highest possible frequencies – the sacred space – the creator – God. All of us are made of it. Divine Love is what all of us made of. It is already in you. Allow it to show up by eliminating your limiting beliefs from your mind. Love is an individualization of spirit. The only thing that matters is spirit. But most people understand under love reaction to external circumstances or internal desires. People confuse love with what they want or desire....
By adminsophia on 5/31/2010 11:30 PM
Writen By Sophia Andreeva

For years, I have been signing all of my business and personal correspondence “Live Deliberately”, and when I opened my matchmaking business, it has turned into “Pursue Love Deliberately”. You might be surprised but the majority of single people are not really clear on what they want - even though they think they are. If you don’t know what you want – you will never get it! Whatever it is you are seeking, you have to define it exactly to yourself, or it'll never sound clear to the person you are trying to connect with.

Have you heard about Reticular Activator? It is that part of your brain that heightens your awareness of certain things. You buy a red Volkswagen and suddenly you start seeing them everywhere. Pregnant women notice other pregnant women. That’s the sort of thing your reticular activator makes you aware of.

What does this have to do with you? Well, your reticular activator is already turned on. You’re surfing the net finding interesting things....
By adminsophia on 5/20/2010 12:57 PM
 

"Every time I think of Love, Friendship and the word Serendipity I think of YOU! I think of the person who reached out to a stranger and only connected by FB and a few common friends! You helped me heal, grow and believe in myself! You have been a very important role in my journey and when I think of where I was in Dec and where I am now I smile and think of you. I am now MADLY in love.. I am in a year mentorship to help others like you have helped me and I am the happiest I have ever been in my life! Thank you my friend! I look forward to one day meeting you. Anytime you need a reference I will gladly give you one! Blessings!!!" Michelle, May 21 at 8:59pm 



 "Sophia. Last night, my efforts to save a man's life with ten other gifted and trained medical crew members reminded me of you this evening. It seems that you have a gift of sending so many words of kindness and life long learning messages about the power of love in many perspectives. Last night, I heard love in the purest form. It...
By adminsophia on 5/20/2010 12:31 PM
By adminsophia on 5/20/2010 12:18 PM

"Happiness is a Butterfly which, when pursued is just beyond your grasp... but if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you" ~ Nathaniel Hawthorne

 

By adminsophia on 5/20/2010 12:12 PM

1) Whenever you feel out of sorts, lost or out of sync with yourself or the Universe – allow the Universe to carry you into the field of Intention to implement surrender in your life. Just be peaceful and calm.

2) When you ego defines you by what you do and what you have, or compares you to others, say to yourself, “I am here on purpose, I can achieve and accomplish everything I desire by staying in harmony with Universe”

3) Act as if anything you desire if already here. Believe that all you wanted and dreamed about was ordered with your American Express and you got a confirmation email that it was shipped and will be delivered at the appropriate time of your life to surprise you

 

By adminsophia on 5/3/2010 3:45 PM
I would never imagine that it would happen to a professional matchmaker. It's almost ironic that someone would pick my photos to create their fake profile. Last night I got an email from my Facebook friend who forwarded me a Match.com profile from somebody form Idaho who used my Facebook photos as their profile pictures. Some people might think that I shall be flattered by the fact that someone finds me attractive to point that they want to look like me but if you really think about it – it’s an identify theft that is damaging to my reputation and also is abusing towards innocent men who are corresponding with this woman, thinking it’s Sophia McDonald, who is taking advantage of them in one or another way.

 

 

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By adminsophia on 4/27/2010 10:42 PM

This is one of the most commonly asked questions from those who have given their hearts, and souls to a narcissist. At first the relationship is very intense and romantic and it seems perhaps you have finally found "the one."


I recently watched a movie where a character comically said "or you are still chasing after the elusive "one." Meaning we often spend our lives waiting for the one who will finally make everything right with our world. Initially it may seem the narcissistic lover is "the one." But after the honeymoon is over the tables turn. Why? Well because the honeymoon is over! And narcissists love the honeymoon.

By adminsophia on 4/27/2010 10:40 PM
Relationships have their challenges for everyone. With effort and commitment, two reasonably balanced and emotionally healthy individuals can forge a relationship that is mutually supportive and fulfilling. However, there is a segment of the population that is hard wired with personality disorders. Narcissism is a disorder that often drives the affected individual to act in ways that are very destructive to intimate relationships. The non-disordered partner is often left feeling bewildered and hurt by his or her narcissistic partner's behavior. While only a licensed mental health professional can diagnose narcissism, it is helpful to know the signs. Here are 7 signs of narcissism:

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By adminsophia on 4/27/2010 10:24 PM

free your soul your mind and your body
release, loosen and relax your conscience
and see that it was only holding you back
from the springs to come, more springs and more...

 

By adminsophia on 4/27/2010 10:11 PM

Finding A Soulmate Doesn't Necessarily Equal A Blissful Relationship
As we are approaching Valentines Day I thought it would be appropriate to discuss the topic of soulmates.

There is a lot of information out there on soulmates and much of it is conflicting, as in any subject. It is difficult to have a solid understanding that can serve us when we attempt to know what these heartfelt connections in our lives mean.

By adminsophia on 4/27/2010 10:07 PM

When the movie “The Secret” came out it spread like wildfire across the Internet and the cat was out of the bag about the Law of Attraction. Ever since we’ve been seeing all kinds of expansion on the topic, such as “The Secret Behind The Secret” and “What The Secret Didn’t Tell You!” And also there is the angle that “There Is No Secret! We’ve Know This Stuff for Ages!”

“The Secret” was based on the “Law of Attraction” which launched into a new awareness once that movie was released. The Law of Attraction is a universal law that says “You attract into your reality everything that shows up.” This means what you think about comes about or what you focus on you create. It also means how you feel on an emotional level will attract into your reality a similar vibration, meaning if you are feeling low and depressed you will attract depressive people and circumstances into your reality.

 

By adminsophia on 4/27/2010 10:04 PM

True love can only be found within ourselves. If we have not taken the journey into the darkness where we meet our own soul, we can never truly know another. It is when all distractions are pushed aside and there is nothing left but the experience of our own existance that we descend into the dark realm of the unconscious or psyche.

By adminsophia on 4/2/2010 3:53 PM

Uncertainty is a measure of variety. Uncertainty is zero when all elements are in the same category. Uncertainty increases with both the number of categories and their equal-probability. It is the statistically defined discrepancy between a measured quantity and the true value of that quantity that cannot be corrected by calculation or calibration. Uncertainty is a prominent feature of the benefits and costs of climate change. Decision makers need to compare risk of premature or unnecessary actions with risk of failing to take actions that subsequently prove to be warranted. Uncertainty defines change and thus these uncertainty quotes describe the need for the variation in one's static and immobile life. These quotes describe the changes that have occurred in people's lives due certain very crucial events in their lives.

By adminsophia on 4/1/2010 3:27 PM

Nathaniel & Mercedes - they met through Sophisticated Matchmaking in 2009

April 1, 2010 at 4:02pm

By adminsophia on 3/25/2010 9:42 AM
Before I get into this let me say that it is my belief that EVERYONE becomes somewhat addicted to things that are familiar and habitual in their lives. For instance, if every morning you drank a glass of orange juice immediately upon rising, and then one morning you found you were out of orange juice, you may mourn the absence of it. Habit. When a habit is removed our sense of stability, one of our life's rituals, has been removed–upsetting our balance. Very common. I believe every one of us goes through some kind of withdrawal after the end of a relationship.
By adminsophia on 3/25/2010 9:41 AM
On this level everything consists of information and energy. The material world is a subset of this quantum world, and is demonstrated in Einstein's remarkable equation E=MC2. Energy equals mass times the speed of light, squared. Matter is made up of molecules, which in turn are comprised of smaller units called atoms. The latest research now shows that even atoms are made up of smaller particles called quarks, and that these quarks have no solidity at all.
By adminsophia on 3/25/2010 9:38 AM

Change Your life forever

Can you imagine what kind of things can happen to you when you don’t block your mind from possibilities available to you?

You can shift your own thoughts and create your own new reality!

ASK YOURSELF - WHAT IF??? What it will be like if…? The answer is - It’s already done. Notice what you see and interact with it. Be ready to what will show up.

By adminsophia on 2/15/2010 6:40 PM

Love Love Love
The eternal energy of the Light.
Yet in our western world Love has become a commercial property that can be brought and sold.
So much distortion of the real meaning of Love has come to many that the very mention of Valentine's Day can bring with it so much pain and unhappiness for so many people.
What I have noticed is that in the westernisation of Love, Love has become a thing that has to be measured.
Valentine's Day prompts people to put expectations on Love.

By adminsophia on 1/26/2010 8:33 PM
"I cannot thank you enough for your time yesterday. I want you to know that our meeting yesterday changed my life. That may sound melodramatic but that makes it no less true. Through our meeting, I was able to identify exactly what I am looking for in a life partner and now feel better equipped to recognize it when I see it. Moreover, I finally embraced my ultimate goal--to be married and to create a family--and no longer feel as though it's something I ought not admit for fear of what others might think. You gave me some tools I can use to stop wasting my time with all the things that do not look like my life partner and stay focused on my goal. In short, I am energized to pursue love deliberately. I must say, our meeting yesterday was time and money well spent. I would have paid ten times the amount to get the same value you provided to me yesterday alone--that is how impactful it was." ~ Female - 35yo, Bellevue/WA - January, 2010

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By adminsophia on 1/12/2010 5:14 PM

Age Difference / Older Woman / Younger Man

1 Year

Angela Bassett . . . Courtney B. Vance
Victoria Beckham (Victoria Adams/"Posh" Spice) . . . David Beckham
Camilla Parker Bowles . . . Prince Charles
Brandy . . . Robert Smith
Jane Fonda . . . Ted Turner
Cassandra Harris . . . Pierce Brosnan
Helen Hunt . . . Hank Azaria
Nicole Kidman . . . Keith Urban
Sharon Lawrence . . . Tom Apostle
Tracy Pollan . . . Michael J. Fox
Kelly Ripa . . . Mark Consuelos
Julia Roberts . . . Danny Moder
Rebecca Romijn . . . Jerry O'Connell
Afton Smith . . . Brendon Fraser
Uma Thurman . . . Ethan Hawke
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By adminsophia on 1/12/2010 5:10 PM

Age Difference / Older Man / Younger Woman

0 Years (less than one year age difference)

Mark Burnett . . . Roma Downey
George W. Bush . . . Laura Welch
Albert Gore Jr. . . . Tipper Aitcheson
Tom Hanks . . . Rita Wilson
Tim McGraw . . . Faith Hill
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By adminsophia on 12/17/2009 1:14 PM

It's that time of the year again - we are inundated with more party invitations and opportunities to treat ourselves than at any other time of the year. We gather with our loved ones and make merry! For many of us, celebrating at this time of year is synonymous with over-indulgence and is often followed in the New Year with pangs of guilt and resolutions to do better this year. The question many of us have is; 'Is it possible to survive the Holiday Season without culpability in January?' Believe it or not, and I know how difficult it is to imagine, but you can enjoy the Holiday Season without weight gain being a foregone conclusion!

By adminsophia on 12/17/2009 1:09 PM

It is my belief that, if we look hard enough, there is something good to be found in even the most disastrous of situations! With the events of the latter part of 2009, the much publicised credit crunch and the subsequent consequences this may have had for many, perhaps we can reap benefits in 2010 by re-evaluating what is important to us and living our lives by a new set of rules that encourage balance. A perfect New Year's resolution for anyone is to aim for, or to maintain, fulfilment: a goal that is surely generic to the entire human race. But how can we make sure fulfilment does not evade us in 2010?

By adminsophia on 12/17/2009 11:20 AM

People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON . . . It is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are! They are there for the reason you need them to be.

By adminsophia on 12/17/2009 11:18 AM

"I just want to be happy!"
Asking most people what they want from life gets the same answer, "I just want to be happy." There is a common belief that happiness is something that can be achieved and held on to it. We look forward to that time in which we can finally be happy, but it continually recedes. We want to get to the top of the Wheel of Life and stay there.

By adminsophia on 12/16/2009 12:19 AM

I recently interviewed Lisa Steadman about her upcoming book If He’s Not The One, Who Is?: What Went Wrong - and What It Takes to Find Mr. Right (January 18, 2010) and her transformative 8 week teleclass based on the book. Lisa’s message is one of hope, inspiration, and empowerment for singles who are done with past dating drama, disaster, and disappointment, and ready to create happier and healthier dating futures.

By adminsophia on 12/10/2009 11:24 PM

It's getting late at the office. Everyone else has gone home. Greta props her head up with her hand and sips coffee as she and her co-worker, Michael, examine the blueprints spread on the drafting table. Almost done. The deadline is tomorrow. The table behind them is littered with empty Chinese food containers and coffee cups. The garbage can is overflowing with rejected ideas.

Michael reaches for a ruler and bumps Greta's arm, splattering her coffee on the blueprints. "What have you done!”? Greta yells. Staring in disbelief at the ruin, he sinks into the chair and moans, "I can't believe it! Look what happened? What an idiot."

By adminsophia on 12/10/2009 11:18 PM
The Push-Me, Pull-You Dance is a relationship dance that creates fear, distance and drama. There are three moves in this dance:.
The Abandonment Move
The Clinging Move
The Rejection Move

Once you know them, you can easily spot the obvious and subtle ways they play out. They are predictable.

I first identified this dance while working with couples who stimulated fear in each other using the threat of abandonment. Most of these couples did not consciously know they were doing this. All they knew is they were stuck in a painful situation. Pushing and pulling from one drama to the next.
By adminsophia on 12/10/2009 11:12 PM

First you say you'll stay and then you go.
Then you say you will and then it's "no".

You're undecided now so what are ya gonna do?
-1920's song

How can I miss you if you won't go away?

By adminsophia on 11/29/2009 8:04 PM
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There is nothing wrong with being attracted to a successful man or woman if this is because they have qualities such as drive and ambition that you find very appealing and that match you well. For gold-diggers however, this is the sole reason or main decision making criteria for entering into a relationship with a partner.

Key common features amongst gold-diggers are that many have experienced a troubled background of some sort and that they are desperately materialistic (to the extent that things in the material world are used by them to represent their identity). This can be a dangerous combination.

By adminsophia on 11/29/2009 7:48 PM

According to evolutionary theory the fundamental purpose of life is reproduction. We are therefore 'pre-programmed' to find a compatible partner, reproduce and raise our children.
This is, of course, greatly oversimplified and in the modern world, where many other factors come into play (such as career, travel, financial factors, health implications, personal choice etc.), it is not simply the case that all we must do in life is find a partner and raise a family.

By adminsophia on 11/29/2009 7:42 PM

These three frequencies, if developed sufficiently, produce everlasting life. Each frequency is a virtue, an emotion, and a magickal force for creating change. They are not abstract, intellectual concepts. Here are a few ideas and proposals to further their development in society, and in the individual.

PRAISE: Praise is a fire, or light, which needs to be established within the heart. It is our most sacred duty to keep this fire burning perpetually, in the midst of all situations. If we do this, then, in time, flames of praise spread from the heart and ignite eternal fires within every atom and cell of the physical body. Praise has two functions:

By adminsophia on 11/29/2009 7:32 PM

While we have preferences, the minute we start insisting that people and situations be different, we create internal turmoil - anger, disappointment, sadness and so on... It's our attachment that leads us to donning a mask. blaming others, or feeling incomplete.

There are some ways to distinguish between spirit and ego.
The following are examples of getting caught in the EGO.

* Boasting of our accomplishments to impress someone
* Defending and criticizing yourself and others
* Lying, being deceitful, seductive, or manipulative, whether overly, covertly, or by omission
* Talking on and on about ourselves and others

By adminsophia on 11/29/2009 7:02 PM

Letting go of hurts and regrets in past relationships is one of the simplest ways to open yourself up to accept Soulmate Love as your destiny and to start magnetizing it in. Simple, but not easy! I remember hanging on energetically to a boyfriend who "did me wrong"- I was still angry for 2 YEARS after we broke up! Yeah sure, I "knew" about how important compassion and forgiveness were, but I just couldn't seem to let my anger and hurt go.

I was justified in my anger, I felt, and held onto it, until the day came when my Love Coach asked me point blank: "How is this anger and hurt for your ex-boyfriend serving you?"

By adminsophia on 11/29/2009 7:00 PM
Thoughts on the book and quotes from “If The Buddha Dated”: A dating book like never before!

1) My commitment to myself: “More than anything else, I want myself. I want to live with integrity and truth. I am not going to hide the jewel of who I am, nor will I mask my imperfections. No bargains, no avoiding realty, no conning myself, no lies. The more I commit to knowing and accepting myself, the more I am able to surrender to loving another person because I have nothing to hide and nothing to feel ashamed of." The new love can resurrect our most primitive feeling of fear, hope, dependency, and emptiness....
By adminsophia on 11/16/2009 8:22 PM

Recent scientific research is beginning to investigate the relationships between experience and the memories of experience. Researchers are seeing that certain areas of the brain light up depending on the thoughts, actions and experiences of a person. Detailed maps of the brain now exist for the repeated patterns that we human's experience. There are precise regions of the brain that light up when we see our child or grandchild. Everyone has similar patterns with slight variations that depend on how you feel about that child or grandchild...

By adminsophia on 11/4/2009 11:27 AM

What do men want in a woman? Brains? Beauty? Vacuuming prowess?

Researchers at the University of Iowa find that men increasingly are interested in intelligent, educated women who are financially stable — and chastity isn't an issue.

The findings are part of a study, conducted every decade since 1939, which asks participants to rank a list of 18 characteristics they would want in a partner on a scale ranging from "irrelevant" to "essential." Included are such items as "sociability" and "good cook, housekeeper," as well as "mutual attraction and love," which came in first place for both men and women in 2008. (In 1939, it wasn't in the top three for either sex.)

By adminsophia on 11/3/2009 10:48 PM

It's Real Love when other people care about our happiness without any concern for themselves. They're not disappointed or angry when we make our foolish mistakes, when we don't do what they want, or even when we inconvenience them personally.

Sadly, few of us have either given or received that kind of love, and without it we experience a terrible void in our lives, which we try to fill with money, power, food, approval, sex, and entertainment. But no matter how much of those substitutes we acquire, we remain empty, alone, afraid, and angry, because the one thing we really need is Real Love. Without it, we can only be miserable; with it, our happiness is guaranteed.

By adminsophia on 10/25/2009 12:13 PM
A. EXPECT NOTHING 1. Expectations are thought-forms we create about people, situations, and events. 2. Here are examples of expectations at different levels. 3. Yet given human nature and Earth life, we have no basis for expecting any of these things. 4. Creating expectations leads us to actions that harm ourselves. 5. Creating expectations leads us to actions that harm others. B. ACCEPT EVERYTHING 1. "Accept the facts about people, circumstances, and events exactly as they are without wishing or hoping they were different." 2. People violate this principle every day. 3. Discovering and accepting the facts about people, situations, and events is a great help in preventing ourselves from creating expectations. 4. Overcoming this problem requires becoming a truth-seeker/fact-finder. 5. A truth-seeker must have the integrity to set aside all personal ideas, beliefs, concepts, prejudices, wishes, feelings, motives, etc., when they conflict or clash with truths or facts. 6. Fact-finding/truth-seeking...
By adminsophia on 10/21/2009 8:18 AM

Picture the artichoke, whose tender heart is surrounded by the protection the universe gives it in the form of hard, prickly leaves. Picture your heart, the place where that same universe, call it Eternity, or God, same thing, speaks to us. Picture your heart surrounded by the layers of hard, prickly protection that we have all created for ourselves to protect our heart from the universe. We have done so, at times consciously but often as not without being aware we are doing so, to shield ourselves from hurt. Most of that layering has come simply out of fear. That fear has been both fear that we can recognize and fear of which we are mostly unaware. It is the fear from childhood experiences playing itself out in our adult lives. The fear is often called "reality."

By adminsophia on 10/15/2009 1:30 PM

Too often we assume that the needs of another are the same as our own. Acting on such assumptions can cause no end of trouble. Learn to ask and tell each other what you really need. After all, when what you long for is warmth and affection, it is disappointing to receive a new set of luggage.

As you become more aware of your sometimes unkind or unconscious responses to someone you care deeply about and you choose instead to behave in meaningful and supportive ways, the quality of your relationship is certain to improve. For this to happen you might be required to identify and abandon some form of behavior that no longer serves you. Whatever change is called for, know that ONLY ONE OF YOU NEEDS TO CROSS THE DIVIDE FOR SHIFT TO OCCURE...

By adminsophia on 10/12/2009 8:21 PM
• Well, I’ve been a self-esteem expert for years and there’s two things that build self-esteem. One is quality of relationships, where you feel lovable and you’re making a difference in the lives of others. And the other is achieving things.
Jack Canfield Quote
• I like relationships. I enjoy that, I’m not opposed to marriage at all. I think it’s a great thing.
Tom Cruise Quote
By adminsophia on 9/30/2009 5:00 PM
By Helen Fisher

Could this be the year you meet your soul mate? Renowned anthropologist Helen Fisher, PhD, author of the new book Why Him? Why Her?, has a formula for romance based on mixing the right brain chemistry.

In the spring of 2007, 500 couples who read O participated in an online survey I developed to explore how happy different personality combinations are together. The findings were stunning. More than 70 percent said they would marry the same person again—after an average of 16 years together. That is a supreme achievement. 

But what about those of you who haven't yet found real love? From my studies of genetics and neuroscience I have come to believe that people fall into four broad personality types—each influenced by a different brain chemical: I call them the Explorer, Builder, Director, and Negotiator. When I designed the O survey, I wanted to see which types had married each other and stayed together,...
By adminsophia on 9/30/2009 4:49 PM
By Helen Fisher, PhD 

Your sweetheart calls you by another's name. His eyes linger too long on your best friend. He talks with excitement about a girl at work. And the fire catches. Jealousy—that sickening combination of possessiveness, suspicion, rage, and humiliation—can overtake your mind and threaten your very core as you contemplate your rival. 

 

The green-eyed monster, as Shakespeare called it, can camp in your head at any time during a relationship: when you are madly in love, when you are snugly attached, even when you dislike your partner. Neither gender is routinely more jealous—although women are more willing to work to win back a lover, while men tend to flaunt their money and status and are more likely to walk out to protect their self-esteem or save face.

Jealousy bedevils other creatures, too. Primatologist Jane Goodall describes Passion, a female chimp who was tipping her buttocks toward a young male in the classic (for chimps) "come hither" pose when he ignored her...
By adminsophia on 9/30/2009 4:29 PM
By Liesl Schillinger

How did you find him, the guy who pushes all your wrong buttons? O reports on an amazingly effective new therapy that just might transform what we think about when we think about love...

Those who have benefited from schema therapy have one thing in common: They felt the thrill and relief of learning that there was a name for the impulses that had directed their actions for so long. They could see there was a more accurate explanation for the unhealthy patterns in their lives and relationships than the one they'd been telling themselves. They stepped back from their lifetraps and studied the map of their behavior. And slowly, but perseveringly, they dared to set out on a different course, with a new understanding not only of the direction they wanted to take but of themselves.

Not long ago, Jeffrey E. Young, PhD, a cognitive psychologist and clinical researcher at Columbia University Medical Center, met with a couple in crisis. The woman, let's call her Chloe, was brutally...
By adminsophia on 9/30/2009 11:14 AM
 



Go Tell Alice



By Martha Beck



Was it coincidence or magic? Alice Gorman wrote 100 things she wanted in a man, buried the list in a closet. And then, oddly enough, a man who matched the list almost exactly strolled into her life. Seriously, people, how did that happen? Martha Beck, O's life coach, read Alice's story "The Love List," and explains why it worked.





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By adminsophia on 9/29/2009 2:25 PM
WPBF's Lisa Hayward takes a look back at what happened to all your favorite ABC 'Bachelors' and 'Bachelorettes.'
 

By adminsophia on 9/28/2009 10:32 PM
By Maya Angelou

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies
I'm not cute or built to suit a fashion model's size
But when I start to tell them
They think I'm telling lies.

I say,
It's in the reach of my arms
The span of my hips,
The stride of my step,
The curl of my lips.
I'm a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That's me.
By adminsophia on 9/28/2009 3:45 PM
Everyone from the Seattle Weekly to my Facebook friends have called foul on Marie Claire's decision to crown Seattle the number one city to meet guys.

 

In a blog post last week, Seattle Weekly writer, Erika Hobart bashed the methodology (men to women ratio, fitness of dudes, time of last call, accessibility to mass transit, number of coffee shops and movie theaters) Marie Claire used to crown Seattle the "date friendliest" city in the country. The next day, Monica Guzman at the Seattle P-I chatted with Lea Goldman, editor of Marie Claire, who actually said she "[felt] bad for the blogger (Erika Hobart)." Goldman added insult to injury by saying she wanted to "hook [Hobart] up with some of the fellas we met in Seattle."

 

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By adminsophia on 9/26/2009 10:04 PM

WHAT IS LOVE: Magnetic field with electro potential – zero point field – the field of the highest possible frequencies – the sacred space – the creator – God. All of us are made of it. Divine Love is what all of us made of. It is already in you. Allow it to show up by eliminating your limiting beliefs from your mind. Love is an individualization of spirit. The only thing that matters is spirit. But most people understand under love reaction to external circumstances or internal desires. People confuse love with what they want or desire.

By adminsophia on 9/26/2009 9:56 PM

The Secret reveals the most powerful law in the universe. The knowledge of this law has run like a golden thread through the lives and the teachings of all the prophets, seers, sages and saviors in the world's history, and through the lives of all truly great men and women. All that they have ever accomplished or attained has been done in full accordance with this most powerful law. Without exception, every human being has the ability to transform any weakness or suffering into strength, power, perfect peace, health, and abundance.

By adminsophia on 9/25/2009 12:14 AM

 

Dr. Deepak Chopra and Dr. David Simon talk about aspects of attraction, Love, our darkside defined - 8 min video

By adminsophia on 9/24/2009 12:36 PM

Today's matchmakers work hard for their money -- and they demand a lot of it. Prices for these pros run steep, and only a select few singles are affluent enough to afford the service. But you get what you pay for, and matchmakers are selective a...bout their clientele, finding them via referrals as well as by scouring cocktail parties, political fundraising events and charity balls.

By adminsophia on 9/24/2009 11:47 AM
If two people are in love, they're willing to compromise and sacrifice for it. If they're not, they're not that in love...



Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep... wait for the boy who kisses your forehead, who wan... to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends, who thinks you're just as pretty without makeup on. One who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares and how lucky he is to have YOU... The one who turns to his friends and says, that’s her...

 

Passion, it lies in all of us, sleeping... waiting... and though unwanted... unbidden... it will stir... open its jaws and howl. It speaks to us... guides us... passion rules us all, and we obey. What other choice do we have? Passion is the source of... our finest moments. The joy of love... the clarity of hatred... and the ecstasy of grief. It hurts sometimes more than we can bear. If we could live without passion maybe we'd know some kind of peace... but we would be hollow... Empty rooms shuttered and dank. Without passion we'd be truly dead. ~Joss Whedon

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By adminsophia on 9/21/2009 9:01 AM
 

In today’s world, the rush, speed and urgency of a normal day life can be stressful. You can end up working hours on hours of work and yet not find time enough to find yourself a suitable mate – someone that you can spend time with and eventually make a part of your life. And, even when you do find someone, they are never compatible with your personality. You might notice something in them later on in a relationship when it is too late to consider otherwise. This is where a compatible match comes in.

Most of the people that visit online dating services and personals seeker websites do not end up there because they are desperate to find a man or woman to date. It doesn’t necessarily mean that they are not good when it comes to finding a person through other social means but it usually signifies something else. About 80% of people that come to online dating services and seek such ways on the internet are professionals. They do so because they do not have time to initiate a dating relationship with...
By adminsophia on 9/21/2009 8:57 AM
Is it possible to overcome your fear of failure when it comes to maneuvering through the dating seeking world?  You need to behave like an expert matchmaker and move forward with confidence, even if you don’t have that confidence yet.  You need to step out and do it afraid.  If you are fearful of failure, you will be your own worst enemy and won’t succeed.  You will be moving forward with that fear guiding your way and you won’t be able to overcome it.  The first step towards overcoming your fear of failure is really just getting out there and taking that first step.

Another way to be the perfect matchmaker for yourself is to learn to control your self-importance.  You need to balance the newfound confidence that you want to have.  If you are over confident than you won’t find success because you will think that you won’t fail and then when you do get rejected, you may get depressed and not want to continue in your dating seeking journey.  Men want to be respected and if they don’t get that respect, they...
By adminsophia on 9/19/2009 9:29 AM

For centuries Taoism and Tantra have taught that sexuality is a tool to transform the spirit. Now recent research suggests that satisfying sex also has the capacity to heal the body and mind.

By adminsophia on 9/15/2009 10:36 PM

There is a segment of society for whom traditional family values are increasingly irrelevant, and for whom spring-break sexual liberationism is increasingly costly: men and women in their 20s. This is the period of life in which society's most important social commitments take shape -- commitments that produce stability, happiness and children. But the facts of life for 20-somethings are challenging. Puberty -- mainly because of improved health -- comes steadily sooner. Sexual activity kicks off earlier. But the average age at which people marry has grown later; it is now about 26 for women, 28 for men.

By adminsophia on 9/15/2009 9:23 PM

What is love? It is one of the most difficult questions for the mankind. Centuries have passed by, relationships have bloomed and so has love. But no one can give the proper definition of love. To some Love is friendship set on fire for others Maybe love is like luck. You have to go all the way to find it. No matter how you define it or feel it, love is the eternal truth in the history of mankind.

By adminsophia on 9/3/2009 10:38 PM

Which cities have a surplus of single men (or women) - and what that means for the country

By adminsophia on 9/3/2009 10:34 PM

Hooking that hottie is hard enough without the odds stacked against you, so the city researchers at Sperling’s BestPlaces have identified for you "America’s Best and Worst Cities for Dating."

By adminsophia on 6/8/2009 10:02 AM

Imagine a woman who believes it is right and good she is a woman. A woman who honors her experiences and tells her stories. Who refuses to carry the sins of others within her body and life. Imagine a woman who believes she is good. A woman who trusts and respects herself.

By adminsophia on 5/26/2009 9:54 AM
Can you imagine what kind of things can happen to you when you don’t block your mind from possibilities available to you? You can shift your own thoughts and create your own new reality!
ASK YOURSELF - WHAT IF??? What it will be like if…? The answer is - It’s already done. Notice what you see and interact with it. Be ready to what will show up. You already know the answer. When you decide to do s
By adminsophia on 5/21/2009 11:10 AM

If you will be able to remove the programming associated with these emotions, you will free enough space in your mind to be able to move objects (telekinesis). Your mind spends an incredible amount of time on these tree issues and the neurons of the brain are occupied with resentment and regret. The Greatest Fear of Nothing… Are you afraid of nothing, of being nothing….If there is anything that you would change, what it would be? What is missing in your life today? 

By adminsophia on 1/20/2009 10:25 PM

In the spirit of the holiday season, and in anticipation of the approaching new year, I want to acknowledge my relationships and connections over this year and years past. My deep thanks to each of you for what you have added to my personal and professional growth and fulfillment. I share with you:

My wish for 2009:
Stop taking ourselves so seriously!
Let's have more laughter and fewer tears,
less exclusion and more acceptance,
less pretense and more authenticity,
less anger and more hope...

By adminsophia on 1/20/2009 10:22 PM

Friendship is a personal relationship shared between each friend for the welfare of other, in other words, it is the relationship of trust, faith and concern for each other feelings. It is a relationship of mutual caring and intimacy among one another. A friend is one who knows you as a person and regards you for what you are and not what he or she is looking in a good friend. Best friend is one who accepts the good as well bad qualities of his friend and also takes an initiative in correcting and mending them. Friendship is a distinctive kind of concern for your friend, it is a relationship of immense faith and love for each other.

By adminsophia on 1/20/2009 10:14 PM

Can you imagine what kind of things can happen to you when you don’t block your mind from possibilities available to you? You can shift your own thoughts and create your own new reality!

ASK YOURSELF - WHAT IF? What it will be like if…? The answer is - It’s already done. Notice what you see and interact with it. Be ready to what will show up.

You already know the answer. When you decide to do something or have a question or ready for a change - it’s when you already have the necessary information and resources available for you, you already know the answer – all you have to do is to let it in. You are reading this workbook because you already have a readiness for a shift in your brain – you are ready for it. Now when you have the info and all of your dots connected, all you have to do is to allow it to come to you and happen.

By adminsophia on 1/20/2009 10:05 PM

1. People are often unreasonable, illogical and self centered –
Forgive them anyway
2. If you are kind, people will accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives –
Be kind anyway
3. If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies – Succeed anyway
4. If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you –
Be honest and frank anyway
5. What you spend years building, someone may destroy overnight –
Build anyway
6. If you find serenity and happiness, they might be jealous –
Be happy anyway
7. The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow –
Do good anyway
8. Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough –
Give the world the best you got anyway
You see, in the final analysis, it is al

By adminsophia on 1/20/2009 9:57 PM

Here are 10 tips by Iain Legg I really enjoyed:

1. DON'T give away your power to people. Take responsibility for
your life. If things aren't going as hoped in your life, re examine
your deepest beliefs. Swap limiting beliefs for empowering ones.

2. DO get a pet! According to Power vs Force, a purring cat
vibrates at 500 (anything over 200 is Good..)

3. DON'T watch movies that drag you down. According to Power vs
Force, this is most films. Watch movies that will make you feel
good. Listen to music that fills you with positive emotions. Read
books that empower you. (Control the input to your brain, and
you'll control your output).

By adminsophia on 1/20/2009 9:50 PM

“The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them."
- Thomas Merton

By adminsophia on 11/9/2008 11:26 AM

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves - Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” - Marianne Williamson

By adminsophia on 11/9/2008 11:22 AM
"The only way to get what you really want, is to know what you really want. And the only way to know what you really want, is to know yourself. And the only way to know yourself, is to be yourself. And the only way to be yourself is to listen to your heart." - Mike Dooley
By adminsophia on 10/14/2008 2:20 PM

"In fact, this service is much more than a matchmaking business. It’s really life-coaching on steroids, with a very pleasant side-effect. If you’re open to her guidance, it will bring much better matches and much better relationship skills into your life. Sophia helps solve the universal struggle of every human … the elimination of lovelessness and loneliness in our lives..."

By adminsophia on 7/22/2008 4:20 PM

File this under extremely useful information: guys share nine things that make a man all yours forever -- no doubts, no straying, no pulling a Spitzer.

By adminsophia on 7/16/2008 11:45 AM
You and your guy may be a better match than PB&J, but that won’t make him propose. Psychologist Alon Gratch, PhD, reveals the tipping factor that will.
By adminsophia on 7/9/2008 4:47 PM

William Parrish: Love is passion, obsession, someone you can't live without. If you don't start with that, what are you going to end up with? Fall head over heels. I say find someone you can love like crazy and who'll love you the same way back. And how do you find him? Forget your head and listen to your heart. I'm not hearing any heart. Run the risk, if you get hurt, you'll come back. Because, the truth is there is no sense living your life without this. To make the journey and not fall

By adminsophia on 7/9/2008 4:38 PM

People often mix together three absolutely different things – Chemistry, Falling in Love and True Love. “When you realize, there is nothing lacking the whole world belong to you. When you let go of what you are, you become what you might be" - Lao Tzu.

By adminsophia on 4/4/2008 4:22 PM

If you don’t know what you want – you will never get it!  Whatever it is you are seeking, you have to define it exactly to yourself, or it'll never sound clear to the person you are trying to connect with.

By adminsophia on 4/1/2008 1:09 PM

Belief systems are real, and they can be changed. For a long time I didn't believe that this was possible unless you did lots of reprogramming work on yourself. I knew they could be changed with hypnosis, and I knew that they could be changed with goals, but I didn't realize that they could be changed in thirty seconds…

By adminsophia on 3/12/2008 12:05 AM

Over the weekend a friend of mine has sent me an interesting article written by Mark de la Vina discussing the underwater stones of the first and second date. "...If a first date is akin to kicking the tires of a sports coupe on a car lot, the second date is like taking your potential dream rig for a test drive. At the risk of reducing dating to a visit to the auto mall, the second date is as important as that initial encounter in learning about the other person. While the first date is something of a sneak peek, a second date, free of jitters over making that great first impression, can reveal even more..."

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