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Pursue Love Deliberately!

Love, Dating and Relationship Advice by Seattle Millionaire Matchmaker Sophia Andreeva

 
Author: adminsophia Created: 2/20/2008 10:47 PM RssIcon
If you ever asked yourself one of the following questions, it’s worth reading our blog! -- Why do you choose the same type of partner over and over again? -- Why partners change so much after having sex? Why are you attracted to the opposites? -- Why your relationships change after having sex and after we get married? -- What is chemistry and how different is it from love? -- How to break your pattern? -- How to attract the type of partner you want? -- How to turn wounds of the past into your purpose for the future? -- How to be in sync with the opposite sex? -- How to interview your potential match as a professional matchmaker? -- Why do you need to be intentional and to have a plan to achieve your love goals?
By adminsophia on 9/25/2012 10:28 PM
PLEASE SUBSCRIBE TO MY FACEBOOK PAGE FOR INSPIRATION AND INFORMATION ON RELATIONSHIP AND DATING: 

https://www.facebook.com/sophiamcdonald

Here is a testimonial from one of my FB friends: 

"Sophia, I want to thank you for all the inspiration. The reason i am writing this is because I read all you post and has provided me with hope. That someday, a miracle will happen, as in a positive relationship. So, keep them coming, because you are making a huge difference in my life. Just sharing. You are loved by all." ~ Craig / September 26th, 2012

 

 

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By adminsophia on 7/27/2012 4:31 PM
During an attack early Friday at a midnight showing of The Dark Night Rises, 24-year-old James Holmes allegedly set off gas canisters and used a semiautomatic rifle, a shotgun and a pistol to open fire on theater-goers, Aurora Police Chief Dan Oates told news outlets Sunday. Holmes supposedly bought the weapons at local gun stores and 6,000 rounds of ammunition over the Internet, Oates said. The Aurora theater massacre left 12 dead and 58 wounded, some critically. We, like the rest of the world, are horrified.   “Authorities disclosed that he is refusing to cooperate and that it could take months to learn what prompted the mass shooting,” reports CBSNews.com.   Although James Holmes’ motive for his alleged shooting rampage has yet to be determined, another aspect of the case that has everyone talking is his relationships prior to the incident. What was James Holmes’ personal life like? Those who knew Holmes prior to the attack describe him as quiet and smart, nothing out of the ordinary, nothing...
By adminsophia on 7/18/2012 9:50 PM
 "Sophia, I just thought I'd update you with status since our consultation.  I've read through  a majority of suggested reading you gave me.  What I found most helpful was your example of a picky guy who describes a girl he's looking for that would never be attracted to him, and then Wayne Dyer's statement of, "be that which you want to attract."  Most of the rest of the reading can be summed up by, 'positive people attract positive results.'  All that information helped give me a new perspective that makes sense, and in application has generated some good results.  It has apparently changed the energy I'm giving off as more people I've never met have been initiating random conversations with me, and women have actually been approaching me and asking to dance when I go to social Salsa dances. One result in particular I'm excited about is a date for tomorrow evening, the woman is someone I met at a party on Saturday.  Tomorrow is also my styling session with Darcy; she did a closet audit yesterday and it's definitely...
By adminsophia on 7/16/2012 4:03 PM
Carla Lundblade Interviews Sophia Andreeva,

President and Founder of Sophisticated Matchmaking, Inc. as they discuss:        

"Celebrities Need Help Finding Love!"  

Tuesday, July 10th @11:00 a.m. PST

Psyched Up Radio Show

Click HERE to Listen

 



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By adminsophia on 6/21/2012 8:52 PM
An Excerpt from Blue Truth: A Spiritual Guide to Life & Death and Love & Sex by David Deida David Deida sheds light on the spiritual practice of openness and what that means in terms of relationships, self-realization, and our emotional life. Here is an excerpt.   "Right now, and in every moment, you are either closing or opening. You are either stressfully waiting for something — more money, security, affection — or you are living from your deep heart, opening as the entire moment, and giving what you most deeply desire to give, without waiting.   "If you are waiting for anything in order to live and love without holding back, then you suffer. Every moment is the most important moment of your life. No future time is better than now to let down your guard and love.

"Everything you do right now ripples outward and affects everyone. Your posture can shine your heart or transmit anxiety. Your breath can radiate love or muddy the room in depression. Your glance can awaken joy. Your words can inspire freedom....
By adminsophia on 6/21/2012 8:42 PM
by Eckhart Tolle The author of best selling book "The Power of Now" Eckhart Tolle speaks on "Enlightened Relationships" Re-printed with the permission of Eckhart Tolle, author of the best seller "The Power Of Now" www.eckharttolle.com   When one is fully conscious, would one still have a need for a relationship? Would a man still feel drawn to a woman? Would a woman still feel incomplete without a man?   Enlightened or not, you are either a man or a woman, so on the level of your form identity you are not complete. You are one-half of the whole. This incompleteness is felt as male-female attraction, the pull toward the opposite energy polarity, no matter how conscious you are. But in that inner state of connectedness, you feel this pull somewhere on the surface or periphery of your life. Anything that happens to you in that state feels somewhat like that. The whole world seems like waves or ripples on the surface of a vast and deep ocean. You are that ocean and, of course, you are also a ripple,...
By adminsophia on 6/21/2012 8:28 PM
From Blue Truth by David Deida, Chapter 15

http://deida.info/books/blue-truth

Feeling who you are is the first step; living true to your identity is next.   Your identity is who you feel you are. If you feel you are a corporate executive, you will act very differently than if you feel you are infinite light. Who you feel yourself as is your identity. Spiritual growth involves deepening your identity, feeling more deeply who you are.   But after you have discovered a certain level of depth, then you must conform your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors to this depth of openness—otherwise, your life-practice lags behind your identity-practice. Suppose, for example, you realize that at heart you are love. You realize that although you might function as a mother, a politician, or a baker, at depth you actually are love.   This realization is half of your spiritual practice. The other half is to live true to your newly realized identity, in spite...
By adminsophia on 6/21/2012 8:14 PM
From The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida, Chapter 9

http://deida.info/books/blue-truth

The way a man penetrates the world should be the same way he penetrates his woman: not merely for personal gain or pleasure, but to magnify love, openness, and depth.   The next time you embrace your woman sexually, feel your ultimate desire. Your deepest desire in life. Feel why you are doing anything at all in life, and, specifically, why you are uniting with your lover. There may be many lesser reasons, but what is your deepest, ultimate reason? Most men's ultimate reason for doing anything has to do with discovering their deepest truth, enjoying total freedom and love, and giving their fullest gifts. Yet, many men settle for enjoying a little bit of freedom and love while incompletely giving their gifts. They enjoy the freedom to buy a nice car, to have loving sex fairly often, and to sleep late on Sunday. They generously donate their spare cash to a good cause, lovingly buy their woman a diamond ring, and happily coach a little league team. These are enjoyable freedoms and real gifts that make a significant difference in people's lives. But, for many men, it is still not enough....
By adminsophia on 6/13/2012 12:12 AM
  The Reason Men Want To Dress Well I was thinking recently about the motivation behind men’s fashion, and I can assume that we, who are part of the Fashionbeans community, are all stylish gents who take the utmost care in our appearance. The question is why? Why do we spend all of our money on clothes (that might just be me)? Why do we spend what can take years to find our own timeless style? Why is it so important? Upon reflection I came up with a loose answer. For me it all goes back to the often used description of the stock action hero “women want him, and men want to be him”. We all want men to envy us and women to want to be with us, it’s a basic masculine need to be the best guy in the room. We all know what other men think about men’s fashion, but what do the fairer sex think? With that thought I hit the streets armed with nothing but a notepad and a cheesy smile to ask them…



A Woman’s Point of View I tried to interview a range of women in different professions and at different ages,...
By adminsophia on 6/12/2012 11:48 PM
There are many ways we approach love...   Some of us take the "if it's meant to be it will just happen" approach. Others take charge and go into "make it happen" mode. I believe that it's a combination of the two that is the winning ticket. I believe that meeting your soulmate has a certain amount of " meant-to-be-ness to it... AND it requires a big dose of "make-it-happen-ness." Practicing intention, surrender, focus, and detachment coupled with trust, belief, knowingness, and patience is the recipe for success. And I realize that this is a paradox.... How does one be both intentional and surrendered? When I am being intentional, I have a clear feeling and picture of what my desire is AND I also am detached from the outcome. I remind myself of these personal truths:

1)   I know and trust that life will continue to be great whether or not my desire is fulfilled. 2)   I surrender to divine timing and to destiny (knowing this or something better is on the way) and my happiness and wellbeing isn't dependent...
By adminsophia on 6/11/2012 11:32 AM
A new survey shows that men are surprisingly likely to say they’d commit to a person they’re not in love with.

When did guys become so desperate to settle down?

Jessica Bennett reports: http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2012/02/21/why-men-are-settling-for-mrs-good-enough.html



Two days after a devastating breakup, I had lunch with the biological anthropologist Helen Fisher, the person who probably knows more about the science of romance and long-term love than anyone else on the planet. Our meeting wasn’t a ploy for tips on how to win him back—though, did you know that sex kicks the attachment hormone into overdrive?—but to discuss herlatest study. It was about singles in America, conducted in conjunction with match.com—and I was, begrudgingly, again part of this demographic.

But after nearly eight years off the market, it seemed I had a lot to learn about...
By adminsophia on 6/11/2012 11:30 AM
Published on Psychology Today (http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/201203/what-do-men-really-want)



What Do Men Really Want?



by Eric Jaffe



The study of male sexuality really should have ended in 1989. That year psychologists Russell Clark and Elaine Hatfield reported the results of a social experiment conducted on the campus of Florida State University. For the study they recruited young women to approach male students at random and have a brief conversation. Average-looking women, mind you—"moderately attractive," even "slightly unattractive"—in casual clothes. No supermodels; no stilettos; no bare midriffs. It was important that the young man remain coherent. The ladies all told their guy they'd seen him around campus. They said they found him very attractive. Then some asked their man on a date. Some asked him to come over that night. And some asked him, point blank, to go...
By adminsophia on 6/11/2012 11:25 AM
By STEPHANIE ROSENBLOOM

http://www.nytimes.com/2011/11/13/fashion/online-dating-as-scientific-research.html?pagewanted=all&_r=0

THERE are millions of Americans seeking love on the Internet. Little do they know that teams of scientists are eagerly watching them trying to find it.



Like contemporary Margaret Meads, these scholars have gathered data from dating sites like Match.com, OkCupid and Yahoo! Personals to study attraction, trust, deception — even the role of race and politics in prospective romance.



They have observed, for instance, that many daters would rather admit to being fat than liberal or conservative, that white people are reluctant to date outside their race and that there are ways to detect liars. Such findings spring from attempts to answer a broader question that has bedeviled humanity since Adam and Eve: how and why do people fall...
By adminsophia on 6/11/2012 11:23 AM
Written by Lindsay Mannering for The Stir

http://thestir.cafemom.com/love_sex/121939/how_soon_a_man_says



Earlier and he just wants sex. Much later and he may fear commitment.



According to researchers at M.I.T. (fancy!) men are the first to say "I love you" in a relationship 61% of the time, but are happier when the woman beats them to the punch.



The research also suggests that a man considers saying those three little words a full 6 weeks earlier than the woman does.  Hmm. Can how soon a many says he loves you determine if he just wants to get in your pants?



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By adminsophia on 6/8/2012 8:39 AM
KISS & TELL WITH SEATTLE PREMIER MATCHMAKER SOPHIA ANDREEVA

LEARN HOW TO ATTRACT IDEAL RELATIONSHIPS AND GET A FREE LOVE AND DATING ADVICE

Seattle's preeminent matchmaker Sophia Andreeva will share with you the proven techniques she and her clients have personally used to Attract Ideal Partner and Divine Relationships in record time! She will not only educate, but entertain and enlighten you

"When a man says he is physically attracted to a woman - what a woman thinks - "He is attracted to my body." What he means though is that the part of himself, that wants to be with her, is his body!' - Allison Armstrong

With insight and humor she will bring to your attention what most modern singles are missing while searching for Mr. and Ms. Perfect. Through interactive exercises, candid discussion and hilarious anecdotes she will share with you the secrets of her unique matchmaking approach. You will also learn in a very interactive way how to interview your date as a professional matchmaker...
By adminsophia on 5/29/2012 12:57 AM
Courting a lady isn't as straight forward as it used to be. Back in the day, dating etiquette was well-established and everybody played by the same rules. Men would open doors for women, help them with their coats, and have them home by nine. Couples would go to the soda shop for the first date, to the drive in for the second, up to "old make out point" for the third, and would most likely be getting married on the fourth. The rules of the road have changed. Somewhere between Say Anything,...
By adminsophia on 5/22/2012 12:14 AM
Written by Sheri Meyers

AUTHOR: “Chatting or Cheating: How to Detect Infidelity, Rebuild Love and Affair-Proof Your Relationship"

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sheri-meyers/infidelity-emotional-sex-technology-cheating_b_1434356.html



It all starts innocently enough.



You become friends with the sexy co-worker and decide to carpool to work together. You become "friends" with an ex on Facebook and reminisce about the past. Pretty soon, you find yourself glowing every time you spend time with this person. They totally "get" you. You can talk about anything. You spend hours thinking about them and your heart races whenever you see a text from them. You feel more alive than you have in a long time. There's just one small problem. You're married, or engaged, or you're in a committed relationship. You tell yourself it's ok because you're not really cheating,...
By adminsophia on 5/19/2012 8:19 PM
"Dear Sophia - Thank you! Working with you is an extraordinary experience. Your zest for life, intuition and knowledge are remarkable. The introductions and sections of men you have provided so far is impressive. I would never have met such high caliber men online. Thank you again and I am recommending your services absolutely! You are simply fabulous!" ~ Female, 40, Bellevue WA , May 18th, 2012

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By adminsophia on 5/19/2012 12:43 AM
Written by Lila Chrysikou http://lilachrysikou.wordpress.com/

Consider the following questions.  What do they have in common? How many sexual partners do you want over your lifetime? Would you go to bed with an attractive stranger of the opposite sex? Would you be more upset if your romantic partner had passionate sexual intercourse with someone else or formed a deep, emotional attachment with that person? How important is physical attractiveness in a potential romantic partner? How many pairs of shoes do you own?   OK, the last one was a joke (though see the literature on female self-ornamentation as a function of the chance to conceive).  Aside from being unfortunate choices for first-date conversation, the other questions can reliably distinguish between men and women.  A number of studies have documented robust gender differences in how men and women approach sexual behavior and what they seek in romantic partners.  For instance, data suggest that men are more distressed by physical than emotional infidelity, and female chastity is prized the world over.  Further, while polygamous societies (where a husband has more than one wife) exist, when was the last time you heard of a polyandrous arrangement (where a wife has more than one husband)?...
By adminsophia on 5/19/2012 12:41 AM
For most of us, the greatest source of happiness in life is to love and be loved. Today I am going to tell you why love and optimism go hand in hand.   When I think of the strongly optimistic people I know, I am always struck by the depth and scope of their relationships. Optimists are great lovers! They love many things passionately - nature, sports, music, art, gardening - you name it.   But most of all, they love people. They respond to children and old folks with enthusiasm. They are deeply connected to their families. They are usually involved in doing something to help people in trouble. In fact, they reach out to others all the time, giving the gift of their attention and interest, and they have a wonderful way of making the people they are talking to feel valued and important.   Their ability to admire and enjoy others is a powerful force that helps account for their optimism and keeps their positive outlook alive. Because of all the loving energy they put forth, they have a lot of love coming back...
By adminsophia on 5/19/2012 12:35 AM
http://www.learnbodylanguage.org/body_language_courting.html

Men's needs and tactics for mate selection are programmed in their DNA. Today's men's behavior is still affected by evolutionary selection choices by ancestors over the past millions of years. Our ancestors lived in a world that was dangerous and very different from our world today. Humans survived as a species because of wise choices and practices of ancient ancestors. Many of the ancient male tactics for mate selection are still used today by most men. What worked best for our male ancestors to get a mate and produce offspring still shows in the behavior and body language of most men today!   Research on men's behavior and body language in mate selection indicates that men seek a mate with characteristics that can produce the healthiest offspring. It is also interesting that these mate hunting practices in men are evident most of their life, even when elderly and not making babies!   Men Know What They Want Men's most desired characteristics...
By adminsophia on 5/19/2012 12:31 AM
If the Buddha Married by Charlotte Kasl, Ph.D. www.charlottekasl.com

  May all beings everywhere be free from suffering and the root of all suffering. May all beings everywhere find happiness and the root of all happiness. --Buddhist blessing   Buddhist teachings provide a wonderful foundation to understand why relationships work and why they don't. They help us develop awareness so we live in the present and become alive to ourselves and our loved ones. Our exploration of vital, loving relationships will include Buddhist concepts of impermanence, lovingkindness, compassion, attachments, the nature of our conditioned responses, and the underlying unity of All That Is.   Buddhist teachings apply to everyday living as well as intimate relationships. Indeed, there is no separation between the awareness of how we breathe, think, talk, eat, walk, rest, work, play and the awareness of how we relate to others and to all sentient life. As we team to bring...
By adminsophia on 5/19/2012 12:26 AM
Written by Arielle Ford http://soulmatesecret.com/blog/

We live in a world full of paradoxes…the “success” teachers say we need to write long lists full of goals – short-term, long-term, even 5-year goals. The “spiritual” teachers advise us to “let go and let God.” The Law of Attraction tells us that we will bring to us the people, places, and experiences that match our “state of being.” It’s easy to see why some people might just get confused and/or frustrated.   I think that all of these approaches work if you believe they will (depending on your level of consciousness and to some degree destiny).   For me, goals often show up as “things I think I should want or should have” based on influences of the world around me. These things will not necessarily make me happy or bring me fulfillment. Otherwise, all rich people would be insanely happy and satisfied. Research shows that lottery winners are no happier one year after they have won than before they...
By adminsophia on 5/19/2012 12:22 AM
Written by Evan Katz http://www.evanmarckatz.com/products/why-he-disappeared.php

My job as a dating coach is to look for patterns.   If I notice that you meet very few men in “real life” but refuse to date online, I’ll point out that it’s hard to fall in love if you only have three chances a year. If I notice that being negative about dating will make you less desirable to a man, I’ll point it out and suggest you withhold your judgments. If I notice that you’re holding out for a man who is spiritual, artistic, sensitive, emotionally available and makes $500,000 a year, I’ll point out that there are few creative types who are also alpha males in business and very few alpha males who are spiritual, artistic and available. You can either hold out for the handful that exist or adjust accordingly.   It only took three emails for me to notice a pattern in response to last week’s newsletter, which stated, in part: “Who attracts...
By adminsophia on 5/19/2012 12:14 AM
So often I meet people who are loosing their mind about what they are doing wrong in the relationship and trying everything they can to make it work without any idea that they are dealing with a partner who simply has a passive aggressive personality and needs therapy.   Read this article - it has some great advice about how to save relationship with someone who is having a passive aggressive personality disorder: http://askdrrobert.dr-robert.com/passive-aggressive.html   Passive Aggressive Behavior, a Form of Covert Abuse By Cathy Meyer, http://divorcesupport.about.com/od/abusiverelationships/a/Pass_Agg.htm   Passive Aggressive Behavior Defined: Passive Aggressive behavior is a form of covert abuse. When someone hits you or yells at you, you know that you've been abused. It is obvious and easily identified. Covert abuse is subtle and veiled or disguised by actions that appear to be normal, at times loving...
By adminsophia on 5/18/2012 11:49 PM

Makes my heart smile!
Just received today from one of my coaching clients - April 22nd, 2012:
"Sophia, I want you to know I met someone who I am hoping to spend the rest of my life with:). Also! The $400 I spent with you was so worth every penny! I took all of your Advice and made sure Not to get involved with a narcissi asshole, which I'm typically drawn to. My new guy is the complete opposite of that!!! Thank you!!!! Xxooo

By adminsophia on 5/18/2012 11:42 PM
Sometimes when we argue our words go in one ear and out the other. Here's a new way of communicating. by Nancy Dreyfus, Psy.D. http://www.more.com/relationships/dating-sex-love/repair-your-relationship-flash

Think of all the times you and your partner have been in a terrific space—loving, warm, really in sync—and some little thing happens (what you would later call a little stupid thing), and suddenly you not only can’t get back to dreamy, you can’t get back to “normal.”     For instance: After a day of affectionate texting, you are about to leave for a romantic dinner—only one of you is now glued to the computer, and the other is getting agitated. The Online Person now resents having their delay interpreted as some form of insincerity, and before long, each sees the other as sabotaging the evening. In the restaurant, it’s civil but not friendly. Or… You’re in bed with your honey, and for some reason there’s...
By adminsophia on 5/18/2012 11:38 PM
There is a lot of information out there on borderlines and narcissists but according to most psychological data borderlines are more commonly women and narcissists are more commonly men. What’s the difference? The differences can be subtle and hard to detect and I’m not going to go into it in this article. It is an article in itself. I feel it is more important to acknowledge that the further one strays from his/her true self, the less capable of intimacy that person is and the more deceptive he/she can be.   The greatest deception is the deception of the self as one paints a pretty picture over the top of a very wounded, fragmented, fearful, and needy self. The more wounded someone is the more he/she invests in convincing others how wonderful he or she is. This is why, often times, the most charismatic people are the most dysfunctional or disordered. Charm becomes a coping mechanism or ones method of seduction used to convince others of his/her greatness.   The greater the disorder the less likely one is to invest himself/herself in personal or spiritual growth. It doesn’t mean a severely personality disordered individual won’t go to seminar’s or to church, or even have a library of impressive books, but that person is not really able to look at himself/herself objectively. A deeply personality disordered individual also will not be able to have deep, intimate, self reflective conversations that involve taking responsibility for an action or behavior....
By adminsophia on 5/18/2012 11:34 PM
By Acha Baba http://www.lovebringspeace.com/page12/page19/page19.html

The question of Love is twice as tricky when romantic love is in question. Romantic love is one of the most compelling temporary forces on the Planet. Romantic love doesn’t last, it’s a time-release phenomena. Blasphemy?! Romantic love borrows it authenticity from True Love, but adds an intoxicating mix of the body’s neuro-chemical imperatives. We also share life-force with a romantic partner, which creates a union that hurts to separate.   Our Spirit’s adventure on this planet comes through inhabiting a system of tubes covered with meat and skin that we call our body. We are ruthlessly wired to our body’s external perceptions and it’s internal chemistry. When we don’t have enough to eat, our bodies have a feedback mechanism called hunger that loudly proclaims its needs to us. We have feedback mechanisms for thirst, cold, physical pain, and all the needs of the body....
By adminsophia on 5/18/2012 11:29 PM
By Professor Arthur Aron

http://health.howstuffworks.com/relationships/love/why-do-we-fall-in-love.htm



"It is better to have loft and lost than to never have loft at all." — Groucho Marx Falling in love is a magical experience that happens between two people. So why do people fall in love? Professor Arthur Aron from State University of New York at Stonybrook has been exploring the dynamics of what happens when two people are falling in love:



Q:  What motivates people to seek out love? A:  Our primary motivation as human beings is to expand the self and to increase our abilities and our effectiveness. One of the ways we accomplish this is through our relationships with other people. We have learned in our research that it is important to feel that you have the ability to be an effective...
By adminsophia on 3/8/2012 2:33 PM
By Brad Nehring on February 7, 2011 Sign up with Seattle’s ultra-exclusive personalized matchmaking service -- call Sophia directly at (206) 6830089. Big plans to lavish your significant other with chocolates, flowers and romance on the 14th? No? No problem. Just connect with local certified matchmaker, love and relationship expert Sophia McDonald for some overdue help in that department.

Sophia Andreeva has  professionally arranged dates since 2007 when she founded her company, Sophisticated Matchmaking — now an established boutique high-end matchmaking company. However, she stresses, setting people up is just one aspect of her work. “I call it the art of serendipity,” she explained, over coffee at her home office on Mercer Island. “Serendipity is when you are looking for something, but something else comes to you, and to...
By adminsophia on 2/9/2012 11:31 PM
"I've never found it hard to date, but impossible to find a woman I would want to spend the rest of my life with. I was beginning to think I never would find such a person, and some of my friends thought that I was being too selective. When a friend of mine suggested Sophia as a matchmaker, I first thought "No way. I don't need that!" but then I thought "How could it hurt?" After our first meeting, Sophia had someone in mind for me, who turned out to be unavailable. She then introduced me to a couple other women who were very nice, but not the one for me. Then, after some time, the woman she first thought would be perfect for me became available, we met, and yes, Sophia was right. I am completely taken by this woman; we are a perfect fit for one another. Sophia has the power of great intuition and the true desire to help people find romance. I will always be thankful to her for seeing who would be right for me and introducing me to such a wonderful woman." ~ Male, 55yo, Seattle WA, February 9th, 2012

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By adminsophia on 12/22/2011 10:51 PM
THIS EMAIL MADE MY HEART MELT - I just received it today from one of my friends whom I have introduced to one of my current single clients: Sophia, I want to thank you for being so persistent with Julie. She mentioned to me she was reluctant to meet someone during the Holidays and how you said not to pass up on such a great guy as me, that one meeting could be life changing. Well that one meeting was life changing for me. I have dated enough to know not to let someone as special as Julie slip through my fingers, so to speak - and to think we almost did not get to meet J I hope this finds you feeling better (you were fighting a cold last week when we chatted on facebook). Warmest wishes to you and your son for a wonderful Holiday Season. Marc PS: I am thankful to you for staying in touch with me over these past few years and then when the time was right to send me Julie’s information – I have never met someone so genuine, caring, and beautiful.

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By adminsophia on 12/22/2011 10:48 PM
 

The Law of Paradoxical Intent

by Sandra Anne Taylor • Westlake, OH

http://www.creationsmagazine.com/articles/C111/Taylor.html

 

The quantum field is just another label for the field of pure consciousness or pure potentiality. And this quantum field is influenced by intention and desire." ~ Deepak Chopra



The Law of Paradoxical Intent reflects the Law of Magnetism in warning that you'll only get a return of your own negative energy. If you're desperate to make something happen, that repulsive vibration will push it away, turning away the very people and situations that might bring your desired outcome. Your desperation, therefore, creates the paradox-or the opposite-of your original intention, leading you to failure instead of success.



The Universe wants you to achieve all that you desire, and when you align yourself with the Laws of Success, it will do everything...
By adminsophia on 12/22/2011 10:37 PM
This an article by Robert Burney - the third of a three part series about inner child healing.  Part 1 of series Learning to Love your self  http://joy2meu.com/emotions.html

Feeling the Feelings - grief / emotional energy release   "Emotions are energy that is manifested in our bodies.  They exist below the neck.  They are not thoughts (although attitudes set up our emotional reactions.)  In order to do the emotional healing it is vital to start paying attention to where energy is manifesting in our bodies.  Where is there tension, tightness?  Could that "indigestion" really be some feelings?  Are those "butterflies" in my stomach telling me something emotionally?"

"We are all carrying around repressed pain, terror, shame, and rage energy from our childhoods, whether it was twenty years ago or fifty years ago.  We have this grief energy within us even if we came from a relatively...
By adminsophia on 12/22/2011 10:20 PM
Written By KALEAH LAROCHE

 

http://www.narcissismfree.com/blog/?p=531

I recently posted an article from Scott and Shannon Peck on “Dating Mistakes that Block Soulmate Possibilities” where they talk about important things to be aware of while dating. Although I am not personally in the “dating” scene I can really appreciate their “no nonsense” approach. What stood out for me the most was when they talk about not continuing with someone who does not respect you. That is common sense for dating but what about long-term relationships?

How many of us stay in relationships with significant others who disrespect us on a daily basis? When we disrespect ourselves by allowing others to disrespect us we are giving that person the message that they don’t need to show us respect.

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By adminsophia on 11/22/2011 11:00 AM

Written by By Arielle Ford

http://soulmatesecret.com/blog/

Love is a feeling.
Love is a behavior.
Love is a choice.
Love is connection.
Love is the juiciest part of life.
Love opens our hearts, expands our world, and brings a smile to our lips.
For love we make commitments and agreements to share our life with another in good times and in bad.

By adminsophia on 11/4/2011 11:40 AM

The whole idea of dating is to have fun, share meaning, and establish a potentially valuable relationship – and maybe even find your soulmate.
Often, that doesn’t happen. We make dating mistakes.
Most of them are avoidable. Anyone who has ever been on a date quickly recalls their worst dating mistakes. But the mistakes we make can be useful for future dates if we think through what went wrong.
Here are some dating mistakes that can block you from finding your soulmate.

By adminsophia on 11/1/2011 1:20 PM
Written by Evan Marc Katz http://www.evanmarckatz.com

I’ve got a lot of theories about dating and relationships.   Whether you agree or not, my theories aren’t based on what I want to be true.   They’re based on the hundreds of women I dated, the thousands of women I’ve coached, and the many books I’ve read about relationships.   Which is not to say that I’m always right, but that when I offer you something, it’s an idea that has some measure of intellectual merit.   The latest theory I have is that there is a huge swath of men who can’t make ANYONE happy in the long run.   Any woman who dates one of these men will have fleeting moments of intense happiness…followed by many more moments of intense pain.   What makes my theory all the more confounding is this:...
By adminsophia on 10/28/2011 11:28 PM
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By adminsophia on 10/18/2011 10:13 PM
Written by Evan Marc Katz http://www.evanmarckatz.com

Over 1000 of you took the time to fill out my survey last week. You gave me your honest feedback about what I’m doing and how I can continue to support you in the future. What became abundantly clear after, oh, the first 954 responses, was that you’re craving more information, more clarity, more POWER over your own love life.   The #1 thing you want from me – by far - is how to understand men. That wasn’t a big surprise. After all, if men were easier to figure out, you’d already be in a healthy relationship, and I’d probably be out of a job.   I’m kidding, of course, but I’m very sympathetic to your frustrations and have made it my top priority to focus my energies on helping you “get” what makes men tick and how you can make better choices with your partners.

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By adminsophia on 10/18/2011 9:11 PM
For more advice on illusion free relationships, check out my book and ebook Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl in my bookshop.

http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/my-books/mr-unavailable-and-the-fallback-girl-book-one/

Fantasy vs Reality: When you struggle to differentiate between what was real and what wasn’t by NML on OCTOBER 17, 2011

 

If you’ve ever said “I don’t know what was real and what was fake”, “But it’s hard to let go of the fantasy” , “It feels like I was in love with an illusion” or “I’m finding it really hard to move on and accept what has happened”, you’ve got reconciliation issues. When you’re faced with making fantasy and reality consistent with one another so that you can accept the truth of what has happened, what you feel, do, or are being, you opt for the illusions which basically suspends you in No Man’s Land while opening you up to problems in the real world. 

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By adminsophia on 10/18/2011 6:24 PM
Written by Evan Marc Katz

http://www.evanmarckatz.com/index.php

 

Have you ever been attracted to someone who is no good for you? Have you ever slept with a guy and immediately known it was going nowhere?

Have you ever wasted years longing for a man who never saw a future with you?

If so, you’re not alone.

Like pretty much everyone else in the world, were seduced by the irrational feeling of attraction - and you’ve paid the price for it in a thousand ways.

Today, I want to try to make sense of attraction and give it a proper context for you.



Perhaps when you understand attraction, you’ll be able to make different decisions based on it.

 

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By adminsophia on 10/18/2011 6:21 PM
Written by Arielle

http://soulmatesecret.com/blog

Make-up sex. Break up sex. Mercy sex. Drive by sex. It’s easy sex. I just gotta have some sex. It’s better than nothing sex. Friends with benefits sex. Maybe this time it will be different sex.

Sound familiar?

These are just a few of the countless reasons why we might fall into bed with an Ex-lover. Unless a miracle has occurred, and your Ex has suddenly become your perfect right partner, having sex with your Ex is a mistake.

Why?

As soon as you get close enough to smell them, your brain chemistry is triggered, memories come flooding back and you begin to re-attach...

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By adminsophia on 10/5/2011 9:21 PM
Christy Whitman and her co-author Rebecca Grado, have just written a new book, Taming Your Alpha Bitch: How to be Fierce and Feminine (and get everything you want), that really addresses this issue and I've asked them to share their thoughts with us today.

http://tamingyouralphabitch.com/freecopy/

Christy and Rebecca say: Many women have cast aside their feminine natures and taken up a more aggressive, masculine stance - in other words they've fallen into the trap of being an "Alpha Bitch".

Now don't be too quick to dismiss the alpha bitch as behaviors other gals do. Although most smart women stop short of over-the-top antics; it's probably safe to say that many other go-getters, are quite capable of pulling the "bitch card" every now and again.   And while there are certainly times when it's appropriate, it's holding you back more than you may think.   You see, the more aggressively you push to achieve your...
By adminsophia on 10/4/2011 5:39 PM
Written By Evan Marc Katz http://www.evanmarckatz.com

Notice that I said “the perception of self-worth” and not “self-worth” itself. That’s because I’m guessing that, if you and I were to sit down and list your good qualities, we’d be conversing for a really long time. You’d tell me you’re a very loyal friend. You’d tell me you have a good sense of humor. You’d tell me you’re generous to your loved ones. You’d tell me that you’re kind and ethical. I have no doubt that, in listing these good qualities, you’d be telling the truth – from deep in your heart. You LIKE yourself.

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By adminsophia on 9/20/2011 2:03 PM
“Not all MatchMakers are created equal! Find out for yourself ~ Contact Sophisticated Matchmaking. Above and beyond your exectations! ” ~ From: Shelley Greco on Jul 27, 2011 “Sophia is exceptional. There are few people who can keep up with the level of performance.” ~ From: Ken Gronvold on Jul 23, 2011 “Sophia is an amazing and inspirational woman! She changes lives every day” ~ From: Jacquie Begemann on Jul 12, 2011 “Sophia is the most amazing and professional match maker and consultant, highly professional and supportive ” ~ From: Tom Lehner on Jun 25, 2011 “Sophia McDonald is a charming, successful woman. She brings a smile to everyone she meets.” ~ From: Frank Drake on Jun 20, 2011 “Sophia is amazing! She changes lives every day! She is a real asset to my group of friends. Get to know her today!” ~ From: Amazon Rivers on Jun 14, 2011  “Sophia is a great communicator and team player. Someone I would hire immediately if I were forming a new team....
By adminsophia on 9/14/2011 10:07 AM
PLEASE SUPPORT me and VOTE for Sophisticated Matchmaking! We're thrilled to be nominated for the  Best Matchmaker In Western Washington! We WON in 2010!!!  Make us #1 in Western Washington in 2011! Click HERE to vote: http://best.king5.com/sophisticated-matchmaking-inc/biz/120799?r=short I appreciate your loyalty, referrals and support and would not achieve my success without your help!  THANK YOU!!!

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By adminsophia on 9/14/2011 10:00 AM
Sometime ago I had a post on my blog about "What men really want..."  and today I have received this message from of my FB friends. I felt that I had to share... Such a powerful message....  

Sophia,

Re: What Do Men Really Want?  I really liked this question you posted for a chance at giving. So I wanted to share my thoughts with you. I have been with my partner for 16 years and who became my husband 11 years ago. We were both very young at the impressionable ages of 20 and 22. I brought with me a signed divorce certificate and a two year old boy. 

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By adminsophia on 9/12/2011 5:50 PM

"Dear Sophia, 

I met my soul mate....we met and married in 3 months, both of us thinking we would never ever be married again. When you know, you know. Best wishes to you."

~Female, Seattle/ WA, September 2011

 

By adminsophia on 9/6/2011 10:16 AM
Philosophy and Photo Shoots by  on AUGUST 30, 2011 In...
By adminsophia on 9/6/2011 10:04 AM
The Last Week of My Life: Part 1 by JUSTINE on AUGUST 28, 2011  

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By adminsophia on 9/1/2011 12:32 AM
By Sam Louie, M.A., LMHCA Psychotherapist & Life Coach 

http://www.samlouiemft.com/about-sam/

In the era of Facebook, men and women in the dating world are often not satisfied until their relationships are “FBO” or ”Facebook Official”. But before you can get to FBO, you must be officially boyfriend/girlfriend. This means getting your dating partner to make an exclusive commitment to you. 



It seems simple enough but I’m surprised by how many people are not aware of the DTR principle. DTR stands for “defining the relationship”. If you’re an adult in the dating relationship, you’re doomed to fail if you’re fearful of the dtr. With clients I’ve worked with, if they do not dtr the relationship, they end up either in the platonic friend zone or if they’ve been sexual with each other can end up in the “friends with benefits” category. The timing of the dtr talk is critical. In this hook-­‐ up culture, young men and women have no concept...
By adminsophia on 8/24/2011 12:24 AM
Referred to by Oprah Winfrey as the Marriage Whisperer, Harville created Imago Relationship Therapy, a therapy for couples now practiced by over 2000 certified therapists in 30 countries. He is also the author of the New York Times bestseller Getting the Love You Want, which has sold over two million copies.

He believes that we select our mates in order to heal the wounds of our childhood and that we are brought together in order to “co-heal” each other. I asked him what his definition of a healthy relationship is...this is what he shared: #1 - The primary hallmark of a healthy relationship is having the experience of emotional and physical safety with our partner. They are reliable and predictable and we don’t feel any fear or anxiety around them. #2 - We have an experience of deep connection with them. #3 - When you are with your partner you feel joyfully alive or relaxed into joyfulness. As you set your intentions around manifesting a soulmate, you may want to consciously decide that you will feel safe, deeply connected and joyfully alive with your beloved....
By adminsophia on 8/24/2011 12:15 AM

"I hired Sophia as my match maker and quickly realized she has a unique gift when it came to identifying who could be my ideal match. I have met a wonderful man through her that I would not have met through my own avenues and he fits all the major aspects of what I have been searching for, including great chemistry! In addition I used Sophia's relationship coaching services when I first met her, which truly helped me build my self confidence in the dating world, as well as to be more open minded about the process. I am not only impressed with Sophia's work but incredibly grateful to her!" -- August 2011, Female, 50yo, Seattle

 
By adminsophia on 8/11/2011 12:24 PM
The Awakening~ 



There comes a time in your life when you finally get it ... When in the midst of all your fears and insanity you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out "ENOUGH! Enough fighting and crying or struggling to hold on." And, like a child quieting down after a blind tantrum, your sobs begin to subside, you shudder once or twice, you blink back your tears and through a mantle of wet lashes you begin to look at the world from a new perspective.

..........This is your awakening





You realize that it is time to stop hoping and waiting for something or someone to change, or for happiness safety and security to come galloping over the next horizon. You come to terms with the fact that there aren't always fairytale endings (or beginnings for that matter) and that any guarantee of "happily ever after" must begin with you. Then a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.

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By adminsophia on 5/4/2011 11:28 PM
Written by Ron Smothermon

When you experience life has a natural purpose, and doesn’t have to be manipulated in some particular way to be meaningful, you are then free to manipulate it consciously.  The content of life that is most meaningful to deal with is that which relates to relationships.  Commitment is the cornerstone of relationships. Without it there can be relating, but there can be no relationship.

Relationships exist within the framework of defined boundaries so that people know what they can and cannot expect from you.  Since commitments necessarily involve that which is relatively unchanging in life, and since the very nature of life is change, commitments are best made related to the most fundamental components of life. They are the simple things you are willing to have people count on you for.

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By adminsophia on 5/4/2011 11:24 PM
Conscious commitment is a pact between beings, rather than between personalities.  In effect, partners say to each other, “Whatever the problems our personalities have, together we will not let them get between us.  If our egos are at war, we will not let that ruin us.  If our egos are at war, we till not let that ruin our deeper connection…we will always come back and meet on this deeper level.  We will help each other wake up and become all that we can be.  We will keep opening to each other and to life itself in and through this relationship.”  With out such an alliance between our beings, our egos will likely conspire to perpetuate old habitual patterns and the container we create may become a prison or a hollow shell.  Conscious commitment is to being together, not just staying together.

Of course, two partners may connect deeply on the being level, yet still be unable to work things out on the personality level.  That is why the testing stage is so important.  If they cannot find ways to work on things...
By adminsophia on 5/3/2011 7:57 PM
“Love is the exquisite exception that is a reflection of what is normal; what we mistakenly label as normal is the aberration…” ~ Stewart Emery ~

All of our lives we have been searching for the one thing that will ensure the quality of all experience and provide us with a “happy ever after,” free of the pain, anguish and separation we find in the world.  The thing that seems to hold the most promise for us, as far as furnishing us with the ultimate happy-ever-after, is the “perfect relationship.”

We expect to have absent from the relationship everything we don’t like about life.  Our expectations have been fed, since we were very small, a diet of Snow Whites, Cinderellas, and fairy godmothers, along with Prince Valiants and the Clark Kent-to-Superman transformation.  We grow up believing that some day our prince or princess will come and stay forever, as we share a state of bliss, untouched by the harshness of the realities of the world.

A beautiful dream, an exquisite fantasy – let us now...
By adminsophia on 2/28/2011 12:59 PM
Keeping the magic of love alive:  Feelings that we could not express in our past suddenly flood our consciousness when we are safe to feel. Love thaws out repressed feelings, and gradually these unresolved feelings begin to surface into our relationship.  We are all walking around with a bundle of unresolved feelings.  When we feel safe to be ourselves, our hurt feelings come-up.  For years we have suppressed our painful feelings.  Then one day we fall in love, and love makes us feel safe enough to open up and become aware of our feelings.  Love opens us up and we start to feel our pain.  When the unresolved feelings from childhood are coming up, we easily interpret our partner’s comments as criticism, rejection, and blame. Keeping the magic of love alive:  Feelings that we could not express in our past suddenly flood our consciousness when we are safe to feel. Love thaws out repressed feelings, and gradually these unresolved feelings begin to surface into our relationship.  We are all walking around with a bundle...
By adminsophia on 2/8/2011 1:18 AM


By Brad Nehring on February 7, 2011

Sign up with Seattle’s ultra-exclusive personalized matchmaking service.

Big plans to lavish your significant other with chocolates, flowers and romance on the 14th? No? No problem. Just connect with local certified matchmaker, love and relationship expert Sophia McDonald for some overdue help in that department.

McDonald, 37, has  professionally arranged dates since 2007...
By adminsophia on 2/3/2011 11:48 PM
 



Lisa Rayanne

 Sophia, I love this video – You did a magnificent job of touching on all of your areas of specialty, including your unique individualized coaching strategy through the entire dating lifecycle. You absolutely have a gift for successfully providing successful outcomes through your experience and personalized attention to the individuals you work with. I like how you also mention the fact that so much money can be spent on dates that are not a fit – whether the cost be in dollars, time lost on matches that bring no long term potential, or lost opportunities due to repeated behavior patterns that allow dating to end prematurely. There is an absolute savings and success factor that is to be accounted for in working with you. Your honest,...
By adminsophia on 2/2/2011 4:17 PM
Written Marla Sloane, Ph.D.

The thought of Valentine’s Day conjures up romantic evenings, a candlelight dinner, and long walks with your loved one. It is, without a doubt the most romantic day of the year. So how could you possibly be expected to enjoy Valentine’s Day when you’re alone? Well, while it might not be all hearts and flowers, you can still spread the message of Valentine’s Day: Love.  Over the years, I’ve interviewed numerous people and asked them what their favorite Valentine’s Day memory was. Surprisingly, very few couples actually mentioned a gift or a special night out. In fact, most of the people I interviewed remembered their special Valentine’s Day by things they did for others. Gifts they gave, whether they were store bought or home made, gave them an unforgettable feeling of joy and happiness.

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By adminsophia on 2/2/2011 4:11 PM
Valentine’s Day -- a day of exchanging flowers, cards, and loving sentiments punctuated with warm feelings of admiration, affection, and infatuation. But for millions of Americans, there is one thing preventing them from participating in these celebratory acts of love: a date.



Being dateless on Valentine’s Day can evoke feelings of loneliness and self-doubt, especially for those who are believers in the mythology of true love. Embedded midway through the frosty season of winter, it is portrayed in the media, particularly in relentless flower, fragrance, and jewelry advertising, as the singular day of year set aside for love, romance, and passion.

But what is a person to do when he or she is feeling the chilling blues of being single instead of embracing the fiery desire of love?

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By adminsophia on 1/30/2011 11:34 PM
Written by Lila Chrysikou

http://lilachrysikou.wordpress.com/

Consider the following questions.  What do they have in common?

How many sexual partners do you want over your lifetime?

Would you go to bed with an attractive stranger of the opposite sex?

Would you be more upset if your romantic partner had passionate sexual intercourse with someone else or formed a deep, emotional attachment with that person?

How important is physical attractiveness in a potential romantic partner?

How many pairs of shoes do you own?

 

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By adminsophia on 1/27/2011 9:32 PM


Are you ready to start dating in 2011 in a whole new way? Have you gotten to a point in your life where "good enough" dates just aren't going to cut it anymore? Do you feel it's time to finally attract your soulmate to you?



If this is you, I have a special invitation for you. I am offering you a session with me personally, one-on-one session over the phone.  During this session, I will get to know you and your relationship and dating history and will coach you to finding solutions and strategies for you to once and for all, attract the love you desire. It's time, isn't it?



If this opportunity sounds good to you - give me a call (206)6830089 or send me an EMAIL request    

I look forward to connecting with you personally and helping you to find the LOVE of your life!



 

Pursue...
By adminsophia on 1/27/2011 9:09 PM
ScienceDaily (Oct. 28, 2008) — A groundbreaking study by two University of Rochester psychologists to be published online Oct. 28 by the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology adds color—literally and figuratively—to the age-old question of what attracts men to women. Through five psychological experiments, Andrew Elliot, professor of psychology, and Daniela Niesta, post-doctoral researcher, demonstrate that the color red makes men feel more amorous toward women. And men are unaware of the role the color plays in their attraction.

The research provides the first empirical support for society's enduring love affair with red. From the red ochre used in ancient rituals to today's red-light districts and red hearts on Valentine's Day, the rosy hue has been tied to carnal passions and romantic love across cultures and millennia. But this study, said Elliot, is the only work to scientifically document the effects of color on behavior in the context of relationships....
By adminsophia on 1/27/2011 8:36 PM
Want Good Relationships? Create Good Relationship Goals!

The first step in creating great relationships is in knowing what you want. I know this sounds obvious, but most people forget this simple step. Goals help you make good choices when meeting a potential friend, lover, employee or business partner.

Goal Problem #1: Having No Goals

Many people have no goal. They accept whatever comes their way. This is like buying a plot of land for a garden and waiting to see what sprouts up. You might end up with something good or you might end up with weeds. As any good farmer would tell you; you first decide what kind of crop you want to grow- this is your goal. Then find some land that will support that crop. Pick the right seeds. Take care of it. And enjoy the harvest!

Goal Problem #2: Letting Your Reactions Create Your Goal

Some people let their reactions in the moment override their real relationship goals. Their fear, neediness, anger or frustration takes over. When you follow a reaction, you might get brief satisfaction, but it will never solve the problem....
By adminsophia on 10/15/2010 3:43 PM
Begin forwarded message:

From: xxxxx@yahoo.com

Date: October 15, 2010 2:10:54 PM PDT

To: SOPHIA MCDONALD

Subject: Fwd: referral for Sophia McDonald

Hi Joie,

Beautiful name by the way!

Back in September, Sophia mentioned that you had asked for references, and I apologize that between travel and work and children, I've not been as timely in responding as I had hoped to be



 

 

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By adminsophia on 9/2/2010 12:27 PM
What people have to say about matchmaking and coaching services provided by me:) Letters like this make my heart smile:) XO

"Dear Sophia, I would like to thank you again for speaking to me yesterday and giving me a lift. It will take a little bit of time to heal but one of the best advice was that God had something better planned for me than I originally did. All of your advices were great!! I will definitely try to keep in contact and work on my healthy boundaries. Thanks again Sophia and have a great day! "It takes two to tango, but one to fall" - July, 2010, Male, 25yo, Austin, TX 



"He is great! Thank you for asking.  He adores me, which is something I haven't experienced since my 1st husband.  He came in a package I didn't expect -- but you really helped me see that the things I was looking for in men and what I was attracted to were not making me happy.  I would never have met him without your help with my pictures & profile, encouragement to start dating again, and the coaching. So, thank you!  :)" - August 2010, Female, 43yo, Seattle, WA

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By adminsophia on 8/20/2010 5:02 PM

“We search for happiness everywhere, but we are like Tolstoy’s fabled beggar who spent his life sitting on a pot of gold, under him the whole time. Your treasure–your perfection–is within you already. But to claim it, you must leave the buy commotion of the mind and abandon the desires of the ego and enter into the silence of the heart.”

"To lose balance sometimes for love is part of living a balanced life"

"You gotta stop wearing your wishbone where your backbone oughtta be"

“Faith is walking face-first and full-speed into the dark”

‘I once recognized myself as a friend’

By adminsophia on 8/20/2010 4:53 PM
Written by Melissa Wadsworth What You Notice Matters

What You Notice Matters! And, what I've noticed is that I'm intuiting that we are in an energetic period of grace in the waning days of summer. This is an important time that can make all the difference to how your fall season forms. I've been sensing that many of us are in a "holding" pattern right now and that things are going to dynamically change up come September. It's not holding as in "doing nothing" It's about being in the moment, being observant and appreciating the grace of planning and prepping time.

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By adminsophia on 8/11/2010 2:49 PM
By Rori Raye http://www.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/relationship/get-your-man-to-open-up.html

Have you ever experienced this? Things are going well with your guy. So well, as a matter of fact, that when you start feeling insecure about something or want to share something you think he'll perceive as “negative”, you keep it inside. You're afraid that by being honest with him, you'll rock the boat.

Truth: Men Are Able To Open Up And Share - With The Right Woman Here's the incredible secret I learned that turned my love life around and brought me the closeness with a man I had always hungered for. A man doesn't like emotional intensity or hidden tension. That kind of “drama” pushes a man away and makes him want to clam up and withdraw. In order to feel comfortable, a man needs to know...
By adminsophia on 8/11/2010 2:46 PM
Written by Rori Rayer http://www.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/media/tools/Mantra_Translations_Tools.pdf

   1. THE RORI RAYE MANTRA TO INSTANTLY CONNECT WITH A MAN Trust Your Boundaries Follow Your Feelings Choose Your Words Be Surprised I trust my boundaries - I trust myself: I know I will not knowingly toss my pearls before swine, throw myself into the path of destruction, hide from the truth, go along with or tolerate something that is damaging to me. Now I can move to my feelings.

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By adminsophia on 8/11/2010 2:42 PM
Give yourself credit for trying to find the best qualities that your partner has to offer, starting new relationships with an open mind and being positive is a great way to start off, but when you are making decisions that affect your life long term looking at only the best qualities that a person has to offer may cause you to overlook their worst ones and those could be the ones that break your relationship and have a negative impact on your life.

These are three signs that you might be in denial about your relationship:  

 

 

1. You are always avoiding introducing your partner to your friends because you feel that they will not be supportive to you and what

they are going to say you don't want to hear. If you think that you can predict your friends' doubts and objections to you dating that person then maybe there is a big chance that you are experiencing some of those same doubts about your partner as your friends would be if they met. If you are not willing to introduce...
By adminsophia on 7/29/2010 11:33 AM
Dating Down Why Less Attractive Men Make Better Mates July 27, 2010 By Elise Nersesian-Solé

My friend Karen is a gorgeous, tall, auburn-haired beauty with measurements that would put Barbie to shame. And although she has her pick of hot guys to choose from, she's currently in a committed relationship with a man who's pushing 5'6", balding and could afford to park 15 pounds. And she couldn't be happier. Their pairing is not an anomaly. All one has to do is step out onto the street or flip through a gossip rag to see a great beauty stepping out with her beast. From couples such as J. Lo and Mark Anthony, Beth Ostrosky and Howard Stern, Salman Rushdie, and well, anyone, one thing is clear: Physically-mismatched couples are everywhere. 



Sure, these guys have money and power — a trait evolutionary biologists say women place great value on — yet scientists say when not accounting for these factors, these female hotties may be onto something deeper. A recent study published in the Journal...
By adminsophia on 6/18/2010 1:14 AM
Article Source: http://www.altruists.org/ideas/psychology/fear_or_love/

"The single most important decision any of us will ever make is whether or not to believe the universe is friendly." ~Albert Einstein

Fear and Love are two of the most basic and powerful human emotions. As they spread from person to person, they can inspire such extremes of behaviour as killing one another or dying for one another. Considering that the fundamental importance of love is so widely agreed upon, it is remarkable how many organisations seem dedicated to promoting its opposite: fear. "There is no fear in love: true love has no room for fear."



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By adminsophia on 6/18/2010 1:10 AM
By Gary Wilson and Marnia Robinson   http://www.entelechyjournal.com/robinsonwilson.htm Various spiritual teachings, such as A Course in Miracles,[1] say that there are only two fundamental emotions: love and fear. For the body, this is true. All mammals, including humans, have two opposing hormonal responses to stimuli. Threatening stimuli cause an increase of stress hormones - adrenaline and cortisol. Soothing or reassuring stimuli cause an increase in oxytocin. A sudden threat triggers the fight-or-flight response associated with adrenaline. Adrenaline steps up heart rate, increases respiration, activates muscles, and promotes hyper-alertness. Longer-term stress (from a few minutes to days and weeks) increases a different stress hormone: cortisol. Cortisol, too, makes us hyper-vigilant, but its evolutionary functions are quite different than the temporary jolt of adrenaline designed to propel us out of danger. The stress...
By adminsophia on 6/18/2010 12:51 AM
Article source: http://www.lhj.com/relationships/marriage/basics/secrets-of-super-happy-couples/

Why do some couples seem so head-over-heels? It's not that their lives are any easier or more perfect than yours-- but they do know how to keep the daily grind from eroding their relationship. Get some of what they have by incorporating these happy-couple strategies into your love life. 1. Fall in love all over again. Make a conscious decision to be in love. The more you act as if you are in love, the more you will feel like you are.... See More 2. Remember the good times. Treat your partner like you did at the beginning of your relationship. Make a list of all the things you used to enjoy doing together and add any new fantasies to the list. Plan for them and make them happen. 3. Help your partner feel more loved and secure in your love so that he or she can open up to you and express feelings...
By adminsophia on 6/8/2010 11:54 PM

I am asked often to share some good stories about people finding their perfect match. I meet men and women, old and young, tall and short, of all kind shapes and colors… And they all have one thing in common – they want to love and to be loved…

They come to me, often after loosing a hope and faith that that special person even exists… Sometimes they are ready and sometimes they are not… To let love in – first you need to have your heart wide open… It took me a long time to figure it out…

I definitely have a supreme intuition when it comes to heart matters… Very often the first introduction I make is the only one and people leave me holding hands with the love of their life…

By adminsophia on 6/6/2010 11:13 PM
From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia Not to be confused with Love triangle. This article includes a list of references, related reading or external links, but its sources remain unclear because it lacks inline citations. Please improve this article by introducing more precise citations where appropriate. (December 2009) The triangular theory of love is a theory of love developed by psychologist Robert Sternberg. The theory characterizes love within the context of interpersonal relationships by three different components:

1.Intimacy – Which encompasses feelings of closeness, connectedness, and bondedness. 2.Passion – Which encompasses drives that lead to romance, physical attraction, and sexual consummation. 3.Commitment – Which encompasses, in the short term, the decision to remain with another, and in the long term, the shared achievements and plans made with that other. The “amount” of love one experiences depends on the absolute strength of these three components; the “type” of love one experiences depends on their strengths relative to each other. Different stages and types of love can be explained as different combinations of these three elements; for example, the relative emphasis of each component changes over time as an adult romantic relationship develops. A relationship based on a single element is less likely to survive than one based on two or three elements....
By adminsophia on 6/1/2010 7:50 PM
"Love has nothing to do with the five senses and the six directions: its goal is only to experience the attraction exerted by the Beloved.

Afterwards, perhaps, permission will come from God: the secrets that ought to be told will be told with an eloquence nearer to the understanding than these subtle confusing allusions. The secret is partner with none but the knower of the secret: in the skeptic's ear the secret is no secret at all."  ~ Rumi



WHAT IS LOVE: Magnetic field with electro potential – zero point field – the field of the highest possible frequencies – the sacred space – the creator – God. All of us are made of it. Divine Love is what all of us made of. It is already in you. Allow it to show up by eliminating your limiting beliefs from your mind. Love is an individualization of spirit. The only thing that matters is spirit. But most people understand under love reaction to external circumstances or internal desires. People confuse love with what they want or desire....
By adminsophia on 5/31/2010 11:30 PM
Writen By Sophia Andreeva

For years, I have been signing all of my business and personal correspondence “Live Deliberately”, and when I opened my matchmaking business, it has turned into “Pursue Love Deliberately”. You might be surprised but the majority of single people are not really clear on what they want - even though they think they are. If you don’t know what you want – you will never get it! Whatever it is you are seeking, you have to define it exactly to yourself, or it'll never sound clear to the person you are trying to connect with.

Have you heard about Reticular Activator? It is that part of your brain that heightens your awareness of certain things. You buy a red Volkswagen and suddenly you start seeing them everywhere. Pregnant women notice other pregnant women. That’s the sort of thing your reticular activator makes you aware of.

What does this have to do with you? Well, your reticular activator is already turned on. You’re surfing the net finding interesting things....
By adminsophia on 5/20/2010 12:57 PM
 

"Every time I think of Love, Friendship and the word Serendipity I think of YOU! I think of the person who reached out to a stranger and only connected by FB and a few common friends! You helped me heal, grow and believe in myself! You have been a very important role in my journey and when I think of where I was in Dec and where I am now I smile and think of you. I am now MADLY in love.. I am in a year mentorship to help others like you have helped me and I am the happiest I have ever been in my life! Thank you my friend! I look forward to one day meeting you. Anytime you need a reference I will gladly give you one! Blessings!!!" Michelle, May 21 at 8:59pm 



 "Sophia. Last night, my efforts to save a man's life with ten other gifted and trained medical crew members reminded me of you this evening. It seems that you have a gift of sending so many words of kindness and life long learning messages about the power of love in many perspectives. Last night, I heard love in the purest form. It...
By adminsophia on 5/20/2010 12:31 PM
By adminsophia on 5/20/2010 12:18 PM

"Happiness is a Butterfly which, when pursued is just beyond your grasp... but if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you" ~ Nathaniel Hawthorne

 

By adminsophia on 5/20/2010 12:12 PM

1) Whenever you feel out of sorts, lost or out of sync with yourself or the Universe – allow the Universe to carry you into the field of Intention to implement surrender in your life. Just be peaceful and calm.

2) When you ego defines you by what you do and what you have, or compares you to others, say to yourself, “I am here on purpose, I can achieve and accomplish everything I desire by staying in harmony with Universe”

3) Act as if anything you desire if already here. Believe that all you wanted and dreamed about was ordered with your American Express and you got a confirmation email that it was shipped and will be delivered at the appropriate time of your life to surprise you

 

By adminsophia on 5/3/2010 3:45 PM
I would never imagine that it would happen to a professional matchmaker. It's almost ironic that someone would pick my photos to create their fake profile. Last night I got an email from my Facebook friend who forwarded me a Match.com profile from somebody form Idaho who used my Facebook photos as their profile pictures. Some people might think that I shall be flattered by the fact that someone finds me attractive to point that they want to look like me but if you really think about it – it’s an identify theft that is damaging to my reputation and also is abusing towards innocent men who are corresponding with this woman, thinking it’s Sophia McDonald, who is taking advantage of them in one or another way.

 

 

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By adminsophia on 4/27/2010 10:42 PM

This is one of the most commonly asked questions from those who have given their hearts, and souls to a narcissist. At first the relationship is very intense and romantic and it seems perhaps you have finally found "the one."


I recently watched a movie where a character comically said "or you are still chasing after the elusive "one." Meaning we often spend our lives waiting for the one who will finally make everything right with our world. Initially it may seem the narcissistic lover is "the one." But after the honeymoon is over the tables turn. Why? Well because the honeymoon is over! And narcissists love the honeymoon.

By adminsophia on 4/27/2010 10:40 PM
Relationships have their challenges for everyone. With effort and commitment, two reasonably balanced and emotionally healthy individuals can forge a relationship that is mutually supportive and fulfilling. However, there is a segment of the population that is hard wired with personality disorders. Narcissism is a disorder that often drives the affected individual to act in ways that are very destructive to intimate relationships. The non-disordered partner is often left feeling bewildered and hurt by his or her narcissistic partner's behavior. While only a licensed mental health professional can diagnose narcissism, it is helpful to know the signs. Here are 7 signs of narcissism:

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By adminsophia on 4/27/2010 10:24 PM

free your soul your mind and your body
release, loosen and relax your conscience
and see that it was only holding you back
from the springs to come, more springs and more...

 

By adminsophia on 4/27/2010 10:11 PM

Finding A Soulmate Doesn't Necessarily Equal A Blissful Relationship
As we are approaching Valentines Day I thought it would be appropriate to discuss the topic of soulmates.

There is a lot of information out there on soulmates and much of it is conflicting, as in any subject. It is difficult to have a solid understanding that can serve us when we attempt to know what these heartfelt connections in our lives mean.

By adminsophia on 4/27/2010 10:07 PM

When the movie “The Secret” came out it spread like wildfire across the Internet and the cat was out of the bag about the Law of Attraction. Ever since we’ve been seeing all kinds of expansion on the topic, such as “The Secret Behind The Secret” and “What The Secret Didn’t Tell You!” And also there is the angle that “There Is No Secret! We’ve Know This Stuff for Ages!”

“The Secret” was based on the “Law of Attraction” which launched into a new awareness once that movie was released. The Law of Attraction is a universal law that says “You attract into your reality everything that shows up.” This means what you think about comes about or what you focus on you create. It also means how you feel on an emotional level will attract into your reality a similar vibration, meaning if you are feeling low and depressed you will attract depressive people and circumstances into your reality.

 

By adminsophia on 4/27/2010 10:04 PM

True love can only be found within ourselves. If we have not taken the journey into the darkness where we meet our own soul, we can never truly know another. It is when all distractions are pushed aside and there is nothing left but the experience of our own existance that we descend into the dark realm of the unconscious or psyche.

SOPHIA ANDREEVA

Sophia Andreeva Seattle Premier Millionaire Matchmaker, Relationship Expert and Dating  Coach

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