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Pursue Love Deliberately!

Love, Dating and Relationship Advice by Seattle Millionaire Matchmaker Sophia Andreeva

 
Sep 6

Written by: adminsophia
9/6/2011 10:16 AM  RssIcon

Philosophy and Photo Shoots by  on AUGUST 30, 2011
In the end, after giving Sophia a lot of “push back” on the whole professional photo idea, I’m really glad I did it.  When I look at the pictures I have up on my online profiles now (Chemistry and Eharmony), I realize that what she told me at our first meeting was very true- the photos make all the difference.  I also realized that my current photos don’t look like me when I’m ready for a date- they look like me when I’m gardening… not exactly the first impression you want to make!  They are all taken from bad angles, in clothes I would NEVER wear out to a nice restaurant or a show with a friend, let alone on a first date.  So, why did I feel they were the best representation of “me” and that taking a nice photo would be misleading somehow?  I don’t know, but I’m sure glad that I had some great people help me see the error of my ways!  I won’t be so quick to rule out Sophia’s advise in the future, that’s for sure.

 

 

 

60 Dates in 60 days… why would anyone do something like that? I don’t know why anyone else would, but I can tell you my main reason in one sentence:  I am 38 and still searching for “the one”.  How did I arrive at this age and this stage in my life without a life partner? Did I have any indication that I would be in this situation or that my actions were leading me to this place in life?  Unfortunately, not really.  I feel pretty stupid saying that, because in hind sight I can see the warning signs and pitfalls along the way.  Now, here I am: one divorce, one daughter and one devastating relationship later I’m struggling to get on a path I thought I was already walking and worrying about whether or not I’m too late...

 

 

Ok, enough of the heavy philosophizing and on to the recap of my  “Super Fun”  photo shoot on Friday.  It took a lot more work to get ready for than I had thought.  I woke up on Friday morning and packed an entire suite case full of clothes and jewelry, because, despite all the instructions given to me by Sophia and Jennifer, I still couldn’t figure out which, if any, of the outfits I had pieced together would work for the shoot.  This was not a small suite case, I basically packed for a 2 week trip to New York!  I then headedout for the hair and makeup appointments.  Hair, no problem- big, soft-ish curls, the same as I would do for any special event.  Makeup, now that’s a different story! It was so heavy, it was bright and she wanted to put on FAKE eyelashes!!!!  Sophia already asked me repeatedly to get fake lashes for the pictures and I refused each and every time (despite the fact that she is not an easy woman to say ‘no’ to).  But here I am, sitting in the chair with a trained professional and she is saying that she thinks just “the little ones” would add a special look to my eyes on camera.  She’s saying that you can only see about 30% of the makeup and lash on film and that if you don’t really play up your look, you end up not looking as good in the photos as you do in real life. (I never mentioned to her that Sophia wanted me to get the lashes, she’s come up with this suggestion independently.) Her explanation ismaking sense and I find myself actually considering this option. Then out of my mouth I hear the words, “Sure, why not”…  Before I know it, there is glue approaching my eyeball and I’m thinking, “This is a VERY bad idea”!  But, in just moments (and without any loss of sight), my eyelashes are “enhanced”, the final mascara touches are on and I’m out the door!

I arrive at Carillon Point and head into the Spa at the Woodmark Hotel.  They’re really friendly and grant me permission to use their dressing room for the outfit changes- thank goodness, because my back-up plan is changing in the back of my car!  I meet up with the photographer, Jennifer, with Barb and with my friend Emily who has graciously agreed to come along for moral support.  Jennifer takes a look at my suite case of clothes and within about 15 minutes we have chosen the 3 outfits.  I really didn’t think I had put together anything good, but she seems pretty happy with our choices and we head into the sunshine to get started.  Perfect weather, great location and I’m definitely excited to get started!

I have t stop here and just thank Barb and Emily so much for their help.  Barb spent almost the whole shoot holding a huge reflector in a number of odd positions at Jennifer’s direction so that the lighting was cast properly on my face or hair or whatever.  Emily spent the evening schlepping all my stuff along with us and readjusting my clothes, my hair, even my walk. (Yes, Emily really had to demo walking for me after Jennifer had tried to get me to walk towards the camera in a “relaxed and natural” way about 10 times without success!)  They were both great sports about the whole thing and didn’t even seem to mind all the attention we were getting as the passersby gaped at the three women trying to get a decent photo of one woman! (As an aside, I have done family photo shoots before, and they are NOTHING like having to “model” on your own…  I have seen exactly one episode of that reality TV modeling show and I remember thinking the models were making such a big deal out of nothing.  Let’s just say, I don’t think that anymore- it is a lot harder than it looks!)

Jennifer worked with me tirelessly through 3 outfits, almost 3 hours and about a dozen different locations around Carillon Point.  She patiently repeated her instructions to just be natural and “fidget” a little about 100 times.  She is so professional, yet so relaxed and I really appreciated her patience.  By the time we were through I was feeling so good in front of the camera I could have gone another three hours!  I was DYING to see the pictures, but I restrained myself from asking to peek at her digital camera screen.  She offered to send out one of the photos the very next day and, true to her word, she did.  You should be able to see it attached to this blog post.  I loved it I cannot wait to see the rest later this week!

In the end, after giving Sophia a lot of “push back” on the whole professional photo idea, I’m really glad I did it.  When I look at the pictures I have up on my online profiles now (Chemistry and Eharmony), I realize that what she told me at our first meeting was very true- the photos make all the difference.  I also realized that my current photos don’t look like me when I’m ready for a date- they look like me when I’m gardening… not exactly the first impression you want to make!  They are all taken from bad angles, in clothes I would NEVER wear out to a nice restaurant or a show with a friend, let alone on a first date.  So, why did I feel they were the best representation of “me” and that taking a nice photo would be misleading somehow?  I don’t know, but I’m sure glad that I had some great people help me see the error of my ways!  I won’t be so quick to rule out Sophia’s advise in the future, that’s for sure.

 

Now I am ready for my first set of “dates.”  I’m going to the Road Runner Sports First Thursday Adventure Run on Thursday night to meet other fit single people.  I’m going to be meeting other new members (like myself — I just joined) of Events and Adventures, the adventure and activity club for singles while I am there… wish me luck and stop by to say hello if you want!

 

 


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