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If you ever asked yourself one of the following questions, it’s worth reading our blog! How to attract ideal partners and healthy relationships? ***How to recognize self-limiting beliefs? ***How to overcome biggest fears? ***How to improve dating skills? ***How to resolve conflicts with your partner and family members? ***How to boost self-esteem? ***How to get in sync with the opposite sex? ***How to become more attractive to the opposite sex? ***How to get second dates? ***How to make online dating work for you? ***How to get married? ***How to heal a broken heart? ***How to find yourself and heal after divorce? ***How to get back to dating? ***How to stop choosing the same type of partner over and over again? ***How to differentiate love from chemistry? ***How to stay friends with your ex? ***How to break old patterns? ***How to attract the type of partner you want? ***How to turn wounds of the past into your purpose for the future? ***How to interview your potential match as a professional matchmaker?
By sophia Andreeva on 7/16/2020 9:30 PM

The Paradoxical Illusion Of Choice  

“Quantum science suggests the existence of many possible futures for each moment of our lives. Each future lies in a state of rest until it is awakened by choices made in the present.”  ~ Gregg Braden  

The very intention to catalyze a change in the present may then reverberate down the corridors of our past potentially affect everything that led to the present moment.

Dating Choices


By sophia Andreeva on 7/16/2020 9:24 PM
At The Quantum Level, Consciousness Expresses Its Free Will “The notion of treating people like possibilities rather than fixed structures is a healthy one” ~ Nick Herbert, Physicist

Without consciousness acting as an observer and interpreter, everything would exist only as pure potential. The higher your consciousness is elevated, the higher the probability that you will enact miracles in your life. At a quantum level, the consciousness expresses its free will.

Dating without illusions

By sophia Andreeva on 7/16/2020 9:10 PM
Emotional Nakedness Photos: Simplicity Ultimate Sophistication “The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.” ~ Carl Gustav Jung

We are calling you to embrace your authentic self-representation and trust us with reflecting in your photos your true self, soulful essence and authentic energy signature that makes you unique; not through excessive makeup, accessories, hairstyle, clothing or stage poses, but though capturing your emotions and the spark in the eye with professional lighting and a sensitive photographer, who is feeling and understanding who you are and what message you are trying to deliver to the world.

Winning Dating Photos


By sophia Andreeva on 7/16/2020 5:52 PM

A profile reflecting your NEED and your HUNGER reduces your value, significance, and attractiveness for others Most online profiles are simply representations of egocentric screams for help. People are love-hungry. They’re constantly describing, explaining, and convincing others how much they deserve love, how badly their needs were served in the past, and who will qualify better to make them happy and fulfilled.

Winning Dating Profile Photo


By sophia Andreeva on 7/16/2020 5:44 PM
Fall in love with the love competition! Never forget about it and never avoid it!  

“Either you have a competitor or not. If you have one, you have to be liked enough to be preferred. If you don’t – then again, you have to be liked enough that the opponent doesn’t have a chance even if it appears.” ~ Choderlos de Laclos

Beating your dating completion



By sophia Andreeva on 7/16/2020 5:30 PM

Factors and Solutions For Dating Success “The perfect act is a physical expression of the mental manifestation of spiritual integration”~ Jack Schwartz

To live with illusions is like driving a car without breaks—it’s in a state of constant collision with reality. You can only attract a match of the same level of consciousness as your own.

Matchmaking success happy couple...
By sophia Andreeva on 7/16/2020 5:09 PM
“The perfect act is a physical expression of the mental manifestation of spiritual integration”~ Jack Schwartz

Personal magnetism is the ability to unlock another person’s spontaneity. If you are afraid to lose anything, you are not free. Only when you are free, you can get magnetic. Once you master a skill, to the point that you don’t think about the execution anymore, you’ll express your will with an empty mind and allow the magic to take place. 

Spontaneity plus Intuition equals Magnetism










By sophia Andreeva on 5/30/2018 10:12 AM

It’s often hard to find the right words to describe our feelings, emotions and other aspects of human behaviour. But Haruki Murakami is a writer who knows how to do this skilfully. It often seems as though he truly understands the chemistry of the human soul, somehow finding the ability to describe it with penetrating accuracy and thought-provoking sensitivity. In honour of Murakami, one of the greatest writers of modern times, we selected 25 of hist best quotes for you to contemplate. 


By sophia Andreeva on 5/18/2018 2:11 PM
Follow Justine and Eric and read their feedback of every stage of our matchmaking process and dating and coaching experience.  


I was offered to work on an unusual project - to help two singles from Seattle to find the love of their life. 

Both of them were writing daily blogposts. Both are successful, busy business owners; neither has taken the time to focus on dating.  With the help of a successful date coach and the best matchmaking professionals in Seattle, both make a commitment today to go on 60 dates in 60 days — a year’s worth of dates before the holidays. 

Having "60 dates in 60 days" it is like suggesting someone to join them to shop for a car and on the question "Where do we start shopping?" to answer: "I do not know - I will know when I see it" Oh well, happy shopping day to you!

By sophia Andreeva on 5/18/2018 1:50 PM

In this excerpt from the recent “Standing For Love” retreat, Matt Kahn highlights the 4 key factors to help you expand your consciousness in the most heart-centered way.  

By sophia Andreeva on 4/15/2016 1:36 PM
We are all looking for love and want to find that special person to spend the rest of our life with. Before we start looking for love, it is very important to get really honest with ourselves about the preception of love, relationship and ideal partner, that we are holding in our conciousness. We have to get real about our expectations and true inner desires, as often those are the ones that are driving and effecting our choices without us even recognising it. After you get clear with yourself, get ready to ask the same questions your potential partner. Of course, these are inquiries that take place over time and not all at once on a first date. Enjoy and wishing you a safe dating journey! 


By sophia Andreeva on 5/30/2014 4:13 PM
This time I matched my cllient to his ex girlfriend as I thought she was a match made in heaven for him. Through personal coaching sessions I have helped them to understand each other better and helped them to make a bridge with each other that ended up with an engagement. I could not be more happy for them and their happy ever after story. 

"Sophia was my matchmaker to start until I sought her coaching help to repair my relationship with my former fiancé. Because she works with so many different types of men, women, and couples, she has unerring insight into how different personality traits or cultural expectations can create communication difficulties, and she can find simple ways to remove them. But perhaps her most important skill is this: she can simply tell you that you are wrong in such a way that you will agree with her and not feel bad about it. I am now engaged again to my fiancé, our relationship is much stronger than before, and our personal self-knowledge is also much greater. We can never repay our debt to Sophia." ~ Samuel, Issaquah WA - May 2014

By sophia Andreeva on 3/29/2014 12:53 PM

Are you single?  Whether you live in Seattle or not, this documentary is for you! 

Single in Seattle: Documentary Series Preview

This educational and entertaining three part documentary series explores being single in society today.   An in-depth look at individuals lives and lifestyles asks whether true love is something for everyone? Or are some of us meant to be alone? Singles and dating professionals alike participate in this informative program.

Single In Seattle Volume 1

By sophia Andreeva on 3/27/2014 10:23 AM
 Gerald Rogers got divorced after 16 years of marriage. Recently he wrote a eye-opening public confession on his blog... after I saw it, I'm totally with him. He writes:

''MARRIAGE ADVICE I WISH I WOULD HAVE HAD: Obviously, I'm not a relationship expert. But there's something about my divorce being finalized this week that gives me perspective of things I wish I would have done different... After losing a woman that I loved, and a marriage of almost 16 years, here's the advice I wish I would have had... 1) Never stop courting. Never stop dating. NEVER EVER take that woman for granted. When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would OWN HER HEART and to fiercely protect it. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. SHE CHOSE YOU. Never forget that, and NEVER GET LAZY in your love. 2) PROTECT YOUR OWN HEART. Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance. Love yourself fully,...
By sophia Andreeva on 1/15/2014 12:55 AM
Single Women Sophisticated Matchmaking The concept of finding your “one true love” has ruined relationships and lives of countless individuals. There is a common belief that once you find someone you love, that is where the journey ends. We have been taught by fairytales and romantic movies of sorts that finding someone to love, and finding someone who loves you in return, is where the story ends — the happily-ever-after ending, which has been reiterated throughout history ever since the concept of romantic love was discovered.

Most people are under the illusion that romantic love is something that has roots all the way back to the birth of man, something completely natural. Unfortunately, that isn’t at all true. The concept of love itself has been around for much longer, but romantic love in the form we understand it today — courting and all — has only been around...
By sophia Andreeva on 1/14/2014 11:49 PM
Earlier in the month, I wrote an article titled “The Girls Who Are Never Getting Married”. You may have read it; it continues to get an influx of negative comments to this day, as the only people that are offended are the ones that know it’s true. So many women were furious with the article, claiming that the man who wrote it was misogynistic and disgusting. My favorite comment was that he “has four girls buried under his crawl space.”

Well Elite Daily readers, I wrote that article, and I am a female. Surprised? Feeling stupid? I hope so. I wrote that article because I’m disgusted with the girls of my generation who use their sexuality to get ahead in life and disrespect themselves on a daily basis. I’m flattered that you think I’m a male chauvinist and a creep though. I may be a bitch, but I’m just being honest.

I could honestly not care less if your goal in life is to get married or not. If you choose not to, that’s your choice and I hope that it makes you happy. I wrote that...
By sophia Andreeva on 5/21/2013 1:46 PM

Read a lovely article about Sophisticated Matchmaking in the latest spring 2013 "Sex Issue" by DList Magazine 


By sophia Andreeva on 4/13/2013 10:17 PM
 If you are intrested in attend this event and are NOT a current or past member or client of Sophisticated Matchmaking and Lamborghini/Bentley/Rolls Royce, please send us a private message and we will follow up with you. Seating subject to availability and will be offered to our current or past clients first.



Red is the color of Love


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By sophia Andreeva on 4/9/2013 11:37 AM
 The following comment has been added in the blog "Pursue Love Deliberately"!: Re: REVIEW ABOUT SOPHISTICATED MATCHMAKING SERVICES If you are looking for someone in the Pacific Northwest who is not only at the top of the matchmaking profession, but who is also a wonderful person, Sophia is your woman. She has an unsurpassed level of positive energy, and also an amazing ability to inspire and energize everyone who comes into contact with her. Nobody benefits more from that than her lucky clients- she inspires all of us to look our best, feel our best, to aim high in our expectations for love and to dream about finding the perfect match. Sophia is great at boosting self-esteem, giving life advice, fashion advice, and even advice for in the bedroom. But the one thing that sets Sophia apart from her competition is the attention and care she gives to her female clientele. Many matchmakers who target high-net worth, successful men seem to treat the female as something to be "delivered" to the male client's expectations....
By sophia Andreeva on 3/18/2013 12:00 AM

"Sophia's encouragement and guidance have been extremely helpful as I faced being single for the first time in over 15 years. She helped me clarify my goals and identify the type of woman who would be the best match for me. Frankly, her ability to select women who are excellent personality matches for me is uncanny." ~ Richard, Issaquah, WA - March 15th, 2013

By sophia Andreeva on 2/6/2013 12:54 AM

Written by Elizabeth Griffin|

Read 31 times | Like this? Tweet it to your followers!Published in Monthly Features




Many of today’s single men and women live sophisticated, fast-paced lives. They are professionals with savvy technology at their fingertips. Some travel internationally for business, run companies, and own high-rise condominiums. And yet, many report having little expertise when it comes to finding what they are really looking for: someone to share their life with, or even just a decent date.

The latest...
By sophia Andreeva on 2/3/2013 5:24 PM
 Another testimonial from a happy client! Letters like this makes my heart smile ♥ If you are single – call me 206.683.0089 Sophia – you might be just a second away from your soulmate! ♥

“When I first came to Sophia, I was tired of dating, discouraged and all together ready to give up on this endeavor. The overwhelming amount of first dates will get you there in no time! The first meeting I had with Sophia was wonderful, we chatted about life and relationships as if two old friends were catching up on life. I felt extremely comfortable, relaxed and understood. She was not just asking me questions about my dating life, Sophia really wanted to get to know me on a deeper emotional level and now I understand how truly crucial that was. After the initial session, Sophia started her magic matchmaking process and Vuala! We had multiple gentlemen who met my “dating criteria”, all of them were great sophisticated bachelors, truly wonderful men but I felt no spark….Then, one day Sophia called me, I will never forget...
By sophia Andreeva on 1/26/2013 12:07 PM
Emily Esfahani Smith | Jan 24, 2013

A new book argues that the emotion happens in "micro-moments of positivity resonance."

Paramount Pictures


In her new book Love 2.0: How Our Supreme Emotion Affects Everything We Feel, Think, Do, and Become, the psychologist Barbara Fredrickson offers a radically new conception of love.


Fredrickson, a leading researcher of positive emotions at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, presents scientific evidence to argue that love is not what we think it is. It is not a long-lasting, continually present emotion that sustains a marriage; it is not the yearning and passion that characterizes young love; and it is not the blood-tie of kinship.


Rather, it is what she calls a "micro-moment of positivity resonance." She means that love is a connection, characterized by a flood of positive emotions, which you share with another person—any other person—whom you happen to connect with in the course of your day. You can experience these micro-moments with your romantic partner, child, or close friend. But you can also fall in love, however momentarily, with less likely candidates, like a stranger on the street, a colleague at work, or an attendant at a grocery store. Louis Armstrong put it best in "It's a Wonderful World" when he sang, "I see friends shaking hands, sayin 'how do you do?' / They're really sayin', 'I love you.'"

By sophia Andreeva on 1/25/2013 1:42 PM

 Don't Miss Our Upcoming Valentine Party 2013 

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Believe it or not but our Valentime Party 2012 was a huge success and one couple that met at that party is getting married this summer! 

Here is an email I have received today from a friend of a lucky man! (...Names of a happy couple are changed due to privacy)

Shahin Zanoozi

From: Shahin.Zonoozi 

Subject: LOVE STORY of Sarah and James 

Date: January 25, 2013 11:04:58 AM PST


It was Valentines day and my best friend James called me and said there is a party at the Bellevue Suite that beautiful Sophia is hosting and if I would be interested in attending, I did.  After an hour at the bar we decided to order few drinks and meet two beautiful young ladies who were friends. One of the ladies was a stunning and intelligent Persian girl whom I connected since we speak the same language. Soon I realized she is a very successful, young, ambitious, and deserving woman.  My best friend, James seemed to be closer in age to her and far more established than I so I simply introduced them both together and backed off. In a matter of an hour they simply clicked, they were speaking so intently as if no one else existed.  They were laughing, smiling and listening to each other.  I just knew it somehow. After that they left to go somewhere quieter to speak and next thing I know They are traveling around the world together and at final destination, Cabo James closes a beach for her and proposes. They are getting married this summer all thanks to the opportunity Sophia brought with her Valentines day party. I am thankful for my best friends who are such a beautiful couple.  

By sophia Andreeva on 1/17/2013 10:58 PM
Bachelorette of Sophisticated Matchmaking I received this email tonight from one of my certified database members. This lady had an initial interview and a coaching session with me about a month ago, right before the holidays, and brought me a few candid photos, pretty photos but not professional, poor quality, low resulution and not really representing her at her best. I suggested to update the profile and to get new professional photos. She was actually open to it and was very prompt to follow all the instructions. Withing a month I have set her up with a man that was a perfect match to her and everything she was looking for. Wishing them both much love and a lasting relationship. 

"When I shared a pot of tea with Sophia in her home overlooking Lake Washington, I realized I had truly found an alliance in my quest to find “the one”. It was easy for me to proceed with...
By sophia Andreeva on 12/19/2012 7:23 PM
By HowAboutWe.com


Are you one of the 45 percent of Americans making a New Year's resolution for 2012? If you're single, maybe you should be.

Here's why: it's been reported that for the first time, the number one New Year's resolutionfor more than half of American resolution-makers is to spend more time with family and friends. This beat the usual top resolutions of exercising more, weight loss and smoking cessation, which fell into the number two, three and four spots for 2012.


This reprioritized commitment to making the most of our relationships with the people we love says big things about where we stand. Perhaps it's the tough economy that's forcing us to consider how much more personal bonds matter than those extra five pounds do, and reflect on why it's so important to nurture our relationships with the people who support us when it's questionable whether we'll be fully able to support ourselves. But to me, this shift in resolutions is indicative of something even more meaningful: for a culture that often gets a bad rap for being self-centered and entitled (an accusation directed most often at us young adults), finally we're turning the focus away from ourselves and onto the important people in our lives. Lots of us have learned the hard way that we actually do need loving relationships, and we're ready to show up...for the the ones we're in, and the ones we want.

By sophia Andreeva on 12/17/2012 11:52 AM
Testimonial review about Sophisticated MatchmakingA testimonial from another happy client:  "I highly recommend Sophia as a life and love coach. After even listening to her the first time, truly listening with an open heart, I already realized my expectations would be exceeded, that she has so much healing and helpfulness to offer anyone. What I found to be essential is her keen skill of “seeing through you” and understanding you without judgment, without ego - yet with compassion and rational constructive input. She is genuine, giving, intuitive, authentic, warm, humorous, fully present, wise, and positive yet realistic, to name a few. She “walks the talk” herself, sharing her personal experiences to help you relate and grow, and you find that she is a beautiful human being herself. Wearing “Sophia’s glasses” brought me immensely more understanding of myself and others - more enlightenment – and proactive steps in a positive direction. Beyond a doubt, Sophia invites you to truly realize yourself so that you can become your best in life and love." ~ Angelina F., 36, Renton, WA

By sophia Andreeva on 12/6/2012 10:21 PM

By CLark Kent
Heard any good Soul Mate myths lately???
The cold truth is that most people have never known the inner radiance of their own soul. Instead, they cling to the many myths about the soul mate relationship that are simply not true. These false beliefs need to be understood. Here are just a few.
Myth One
Many people believe that they will find their soul simply by
hoping and
They feel that somehow this person will come along and make them eternally happy. This is the most naive of all the soul mate myths.

By sophia Andreeva on 12/6/2012 10:15 PM

By Clark Kent

Things to know about women
When she stare’s at your mouth[ Kiss her]
When she pushes you or hit’s you[ Grab her and dont let go ]
When she start’s cursing at you [ Kiss her and tell her you love her ]
When she’s quiet [ Ask her whats wrong ]
When she ignore’s you [ Give her your attention ]
When she pull’s away[ Pull her back ]
When you see her at her worst [ Tell her she's beautiful ]
When you see her start crying [Just hold her and dont say a word ]
When you see her walking [ Sneak up and hug her waist from behind ]
When she’s scared [ Protect her ]

By sophia Andreeva on 12/4/2012 1:22 AM
WEDNESDAY, NOVEMBER 28, 2012 Soulmate Questions.... By Clark Kent   1. How do I know when I’ve met my Soul Mate?   --  There will be an instantaneous familiarity, a recognition, and an innate understanding and connection from the beginning that cannot be described logically. --  You will be psychically attuned to each other, and will feel so alive in each other’s presence. It’s as if when together, you feel more enhanced, alive, and excited! --  You can communicate on many levels at the same time, often “tuning into each other” and “knowing” what is going on with the other person. --  There will be a shared sense of purpose. A deep love, and a feeling of “knowing” each other on a soul level. It will feel as if you are with your true counterpart on every level.

All the feelings are mutual. There is a deep soul-level bond, and a deep feeling of having much in common on many levels. Physical passion can be extremely intense, or in some soul mate relationships, there is more of an intellectual stimulus,...
By sophia Andreeva on 10/25/2012 11:56 AM
By sophia Andreeva on 10/9/2012 11:21 PM

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By sophia Andreeva on 9/25/2012 10:28 PM

Here is a testimonial from one of my FB friends: 

"Sophia, I want to thank you for all the inspiration. The reason i am writing this is because I read all you post and has provided me with hope. That someday, a miracle will happen, as in a positive relationship. So, keep them coming, because you are making a huge difference in my life. Just sharing. You are loved by all." ~ Craig / September 26th, 2012



By sophia Andreeva on 7/27/2012 4:31 PM
During an attack early Friday at a midnight showing of The Dark Night Rises, 24-year-old James Holmes allegedly set off gas canisters and used a semiautomatic rifle, a shotgun and a pistol to open fire on theater-goers, Aurora Police Chief Dan Oates told news outlets Sunday. Holmes supposedly bought the weapons at local gun stores and 6,000 rounds of ammunition over the Internet, Oates said. The Aurora theater massacre left 12 dead and 58 wounded, some critically. We, like the rest of the world, are horrified.   “Authorities disclosed that he is refusing to cooperate and that it could take months to learn what prompted the mass shooting,” reports CBSNews.com.   Although James Holmes’ motive for his alleged shooting rampage has yet to be determined, another aspect of the case that has everyone talking is his relationships prior to the incident. What was James Holmes’ personal life like? Those who knew Holmes prior to the attack describe him as quiet and smart, nothing out of the ordinary, nothing...
By sophia Andreeva on 7/18/2012 9:50 PM
 "Sophia, I just thought I'd update you with status since our consultation.  I've read through  a majority of suggested reading you gave me.  What I found most helpful was your example of a picky guy who describes a girl he's looking for that would never be attracted to him, and then Wayne Dyer's statement of, "be that which you want to attract."  Most of the rest of the reading can be summed up by, 'positive people attract positive results.'  All that information helped give me a new perspective that makes sense, and in application has generated some good results.  It has apparently changed the energy I'm giving off as more people I've never met have been initiating random conversations with me, and women have actually been approaching me and asking to dance when I go to social Salsa dances. One result in particular I'm excited about is a date for tomorrow evening, the woman is someone I met at a party on Saturday.  Tomorrow is also my styling session with Darcy; she did a closet audit yesterday and it's definitely...
By sophia Andreeva on 7/16/2012 4:03 PM
Carla Lundblade Interviews Sophia Andreeva,

President and Founder of Sophisticated Matchmaking, Inc. as they discuss:        

"Celebrities Need Help Finding Love!"  

Tuesday, July 10th @11:00 a.m. PST

Psyched Up Radio Show

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By sophia Andreeva on 6/21/2012 8:52 PM
An Excerpt from Blue Truth: A Spiritual Guide to Life & Death and Love & Sex by David Deida David Deida sheds light on the spiritual practice of openness and what that means in terms of relationships, self-realization, and our emotional life. Here is an excerpt.   "Right now, and in every moment, you are either closing or opening. You are either stressfully waiting for something — more money, security, affection — or you are living from your deep heart, opening as the entire moment, and giving what you most deeply desire to give, without waiting.   "If you are waiting for anything in order to live and love without holding back, then you suffer. Every moment is the most important moment of your life. No future time is better than now to let down your guard and love.

"Everything you do right now ripples outward and affects everyone. Your posture can shine your heart or transmit anxiety. Your breath can radiate love or muddy the room in depression. Your glance can awaken joy. Your words can inspire freedom....
By sophia Andreeva on 6/21/2012 8:42 PM
by Eckhart Tolle The author of best selling book "The Power of Now" Eckhart Tolle speaks on "Enlightened Relationships" Re-printed with the permission of Eckhart Tolle, author of the best seller "The Power Of Now" www.eckharttolle.com   When one is fully conscious, would one still have a need for a relationship? Would a man still feel drawn to a woman? Would a woman still feel incomplete without a man?   Enlightened or not, you are either a man or a woman, so on the level of your form identity you are not complete. You are one-half of the whole. This incompleteness is felt as male-female attraction, the pull toward the opposite energy polarity, no matter how conscious you are. But in that inner state of connectedness, you feel this pull somewhere on the surface or periphery of your life. Anything that happens to you in that state feels somewhat like that. The whole world seems like waves or ripples on the surface of a vast and deep ocean. You are that ocean and, of course, you are also a ripple,...
By sophia Andreeva on 6/21/2012 8:28 PM
From Blue Truth by David Deida, Chapter 15


Feeling who you are is the first step; living true to your identity is next.   Your identity is who you feel you are. If you feel you are a corporate executive, you will act very differently than if you feel you are infinite light. Who you feel yourself as is your identity. Spiritual growth involves deepening your identity, feeling more deeply who you are.   But after you have discovered a certain level of depth, then you must conform your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors to this depth of openness—otherwise, your life-practice lags behind your identity-practice. Suppose, for example, you realize that at heart you are love. You realize that although you might function as a mother, a politician, or a baker, at depth you actually are love.   This realization is half of your spiritual practice. The other half is to live true to your newly realized identity, in spite...
By sophia Andreeva on 6/21/2012 8:14 PM
From The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida, Chapter 9


The way a man penetrates the world should be the same way he penetrates his woman: not merely for personal gain or pleasure, but to magnify love, openness, and depth.   The next time you embrace your woman sexually, feel your ultimate desire. Your deepest desire in life. Feel why you are doing anything at all in life, and, specifically, why you are uniting with your lover. There may be many lesser reasons, but what is your deepest, ultimate reason? Most men's ultimate reason for doing anything has to do with discovering their deepest truth, enjoying total freedom and love, and giving their fullest gifts. Yet, many men settle for enjoying a little bit of freedom and love while incompletely giving their gifts. They enjoy the freedom to buy a nice car, to have loving sex fairly often, and to sleep late on Sunday. They generously donate their spare cash to a good cause, lovingly buy their woman a diamond ring, and happily coach a little league team. These are enjoyable freedoms and real gifts that make a significant difference in people's lives. But, for many men, it is still not enough....
By sophia Andreeva on 6/13/2012 12:12 AM
  The Reason Men Want To Dress Well I was thinking recently about the motivation behind men’s fashion, and I can assume that we, who are part of the Fashionbeans community, are all stylish gents who take the utmost care in our appearance. The question is why? Why do we spend all of our money on clothes (that might just be me)? Why do we spend what can take years to find our own timeless style? Why is it so important? Upon reflection I came up with a loose answer. For me it all goes back to the often used description of the stock action hero “women want him, and men want to be him”. We all want men to envy us and women to want to be with us, it’s a basic masculine need to be the best guy in the room. We all know what other men think about men’s fashion, but what do the fairer sex think? With that thought I hit the streets armed with nothing but a notepad and a cheesy smile to ask them…

A Woman’s Point of View I tried to interview a range of women in different professions and at different ages,...
By sophia Andreeva on 6/12/2012 11:48 PM
There are many ways we approach love...   Some of us take the "if it's meant to be it will just happen" approach. Others take charge and go into "make it happen" mode. I believe that it's a combination of the two that is the winning ticket. I believe that meeting your soulmate has a certain amount of " meant-to-be-ness to it... AND it requires a big dose of "make-it-happen-ness." Practicing intention, surrender, focus, and detachment coupled with trust, belief, knowingness, and patience is the recipe for success. And I realize that this is a paradox.... How does one be both intentional and surrendered? When I am being intentional, I have a clear feeling and picture of what my desire is AND I also am detached from the outcome. I remind myself of these personal truths:

1)   I know and trust that life will continue to be great whether or not my desire is fulfilled. 2)   I surrender to divine timing and to destiny (knowing this or something better is on the way) and my happiness and wellbeing isn't dependent...
By sophia Andreeva on 6/11/2012 11:34 AM
From Addictive To Enlightened Relationships


Eckhart Tolle (Excerpted from Practicing the Power of Now, New World Library, 2001)


Love/Hate Relationships

Unless and until you access the consciousness frequency of presence, all relationships, and particularly intimate relationships, are deeply flawed and ultimately dysfunctional. They may seem perfect for a while, such as when you are “in love,” but invariably that apparent perfection gets disrupted as arguments, conflicts, dissatisfaction, and emotional or even physical violence occur with increasing frequency.

It seems that most “love relationships” become love/hate relationships before long. Love can then turn into savage attack, feelings of hostility,...
By sophia Andreeva on 6/11/2012 11:32 AM
A new survey shows that men are surprisingly likely to say they’d commit to a person they’re not in love with.

When did guys become so desperate to settle down?

Jessica Bennett reports: http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2012/02/21/why-men-are-settling-for-mrs-good-enough.html

Two days after a devastating breakup, I had lunch with the biological anthropologist Helen Fisher, the person who probably knows more about the science of romance and long-term love than anyone else on the planet. Our meeting wasn’t a ploy for tips on how to win him back—though, did you know that sex kicks the attachment hormone into overdrive?—but to discuss herlatest study. It was about singles in America, conducted in conjunction with match.com—and I was, begrudgingly, again part of this demographic.

But after nearly eight years off the market, it seemed I had a lot to learn about...
By sophia Andreeva on 6/11/2012 11:30 AM
Published on Psychology Today (http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/201203/what-do-men-really-want)

What Do Men Really Want?

by Eric Jaffe

The study of male sexuality really should have ended in 1989. That year psychologists Russell Clark and Elaine Hatfield reported the results of a social experiment conducted on the campus of Florida State University. For the study they recruited young women to approach male students at random and have a brief conversation. Average-looking women, mind you—"moderately attractive," even "slightly unattractive"—in casual clothes. No supermodels; no stilettos; no bare midriffs. It was important that the young man remain coherent. The ladies all told their guy they'd seen him around campus. They said they found him very attractive. Then some asked their man on a date. Some asked him to come over that night. And some asked him, point blank, to go...
By sophia Andreeva on 6/11/2012 11:25 AM


THERE are millions of Americans seeking love on the Internet. Little do they know that teams of scientists are eagerly watching them trying to find it.

Like contemporary Margaret Meads, these scholars have gathered data from dating sites like Match.com, OkCupid and Yahoo! Personals to study attraction, trust, deception — even the role of race and politics in prospective romance.

They have observed, for instance, that many daters would rather admit to being fat than liberal or conservative, that white people are reluctant to date outside their race and that there are ways to detect liars. Such findings spring from attempts to answer a broader question that has bedeviled humanity since Adam and Eve: how and why do people fall...
By sophia Andreeva on 6/11/2012 11:23 AM
Written by Lindsay Mannering for The Stir


Earlier and he just wants sex. Much later and he may fear commitment.

According to researchers at M.I.T. (fancy!) men are the first to say "I love you" in a relationship 61% of the time, but are happier when the woman beats them to the punch.

The research also suggests that a man considers saying those three little words a full 6 weeks earlier than the woman does.  Hmm. Can how soon a many says he loves you determine if he just wants to get in your pants?

By sophia Andreeva on 6/8/2012 8:39 AM


Seattle's preeminent matchmaker Sophia Andreeva will share with you the proven techniques she and her clients have personally used to Attract Ideal Partner and Divine Relationships in record time! She will not only educate, but entertain and enlighten you

"When a man says he is physically attracted to a woman - what a woman thinks - "He is attracted to my body." What he means though is that the part of himself, that wants to be with her, is his body!' - Allison Armstrong

With insight and humor she will bring to your attention what most modern singles are missing while searching for Mr. and Ms. Perfect. Through interactive exercises, candid discussion and hilarious anecdotes she will share with you the secrets of her unique matchmaking approach. You will also learn in a very interactive way how to interview your date as a professional matchmaker...
By sophia Andreeva on 5/29/2012 12:57 AM
Courting a lady isn't as straight forward as it used to be. Back in the day, dating etiquette was well-established and everybody played by the same rules. Men would open doors for women, help them with their coats, and have them home by nine. Couples would go to the soda shop for the first date, to the drive in for the second, up to "old make out point" for the third, and would most likely be getting married on the fourth. The rules of the road have changed. Somewhere between Say Anything,...
By sophia Andreeva on 5/22/2012 12:14 AM
Written by Sheri Meyers

AUTHOR: “Chatting or Cheating: How to Detect Infidelity, Rebuild Love and Affair-Proof Your Relationship"


It all starts innocently enough.

You become friends with the sexy co-worker and decide to carpool to work together. You become "friends" with an ex on Facebook and reminisce about the past. Pretty soon, you find yourself glowing every time you spend time with this person. They totally "get" you. You can talk about anything. You spend hours thinking about them and your heart races whenever you see a text from them. You feel more alive than you have in a long time. There's just one small problem. You're married, or engaged, or you're in a committed relationship. You tell yourself it's ok because you're not really cheating,...
By sophia Andreeva on 5/19/2012 8:19 PM
"Dear Sophia - Thank you! Working with you is an extraordinary experience. Your zest for life, intuition and knowledge are remarkable. The introductions and sections of men you have provided so far is impressive. I would never have met such high caliber men online. Thank you again and I am recommending your services absolutely! You are simply fabulous!" ~ Female, 40, Bellevue WA , May 18th, 2012

By sophia Andreeva on 5/19/2012 12:43 AM
Written by Lila Chrysikou http://lilachrysikou.wordpress.com/

Consider the following questions.  What do they have in common? How many sexual partners do you want over your lifetime? Would you go to bed with an attractive stranger of the opposite sex? Would you be more upset if your romantic partner had passionate sexual intercourse with someone else or formed a deep, emotional attachment with that person? How important is physical attractiveness in a potential romantic partner? How many pairs of shoes do you own?   OK, the last one was a joke (though see the literature on female self-ornamentation as a function of the chance to conceive).  Aside from being unfortunate choices for first-date conversation, the other questions can reliably distinguish between men and women.  A number of studies have documented robust gender differences in how men and women approach sexual behavior and what they seek in romantic partners.  For instance, data suggest that men are more distressed by physical than emotional infidelity, and female chastity is prized the world over.  Further, while polygamous societies (where a husband has more than one wife) exist, when was the last time you heard of a polyandrous arrangement (where a wife has more than one husband)?...
By sophia Andreeva on 5/19/2012 12:41 AM
For most of us, the greatest source of happiness in life is to love and be loved. Today I am going to tell you why love and optimism go hand in hand.   When I think of the strongly optimistic people I know, I am always struck by the depth and scope of their relationships. Optimists are great lovers! They love many things passionately - nature, sports, music, art, gardening - you name it.   But most of all, they love people. They respond to children and old folks with enthusiasm. They are deeply connected to their families. They are usually involved in doing something to help people in trouble. In fact, they reach out to others all the time, giving the gift of their attention and interest, and they have a wonderful way of making the people they are talking to feel valued and important.   Their ability to admire and enjoy others is a powerful force that helps account for their optimism and keeps their positive outlook alive. Because of all the loving energy they put forth, they have a lot of love coming back...
By sophia Andreeva on 5/19/2012 12:35 AM

Men's needs and tactics for mate selection are programmed in their DNA. Today's men's behavior is still affected by evolutionary selection choices by ancestors over the past millions of years. Our ancestors lived in a world that was dangerous and very different from our world today. Humans survived as a species because of wise choices and practices of ancient ancestors. Many of the ancient male tactics for mate selection are still used today by most men. What worked best for our male ancestors to get a mate and produce offspring still shows in the behavior and body language of most men today!   Research on men's behavior and body language in mate selection indicates that men seek a mate with characteristics that can produce the healthiest offspring. It is also interesting that these mate hunting practices in men are evident most of their life, even when elderly and not making babies!   Men Know What They Want Men's most desired characteristics...
By sophia Andreeva on 5/19/2012 12:31 AM
If the Buddha Married by Charlotte Kasl, Ph.D. www.charlottekasl.com

  May all beings everywhere be free from suffering and the root of all suffering. May all beings everywhere find happiness and the root of all happiness. --Buddhist blessing   Buddhist teachings provide a wonderful foundation to understand why relationships work and why they don't. They help us develop awareness so we live in the present and become alive to ourselves and our loved ones. Our exploration of vital, loving relationships will include Buddhist concepts of impermanence, lovingkindness, compassion, attachments, the nature of our conditioned responses, and the underlying unity of All That Is.   Buddhist teachings apply to everyday living as well as intimate relationships. Indeed, there is no separation between the awareness of how we breathe, think, talk, eat, walk, rest, work, play and the awareness of how we relate to others and to all sentient life. As we team to bring...
By sophia Andreeva on 5/19/2012 12:26 AM
Written by Arielle Ford http://soulmatesecret.com/blog/

We live in a world full of paradoxes…the “success” teachers say we need to write long lists full of goals – short-term, long-term, even 5-year goals. The “spiritual” teachers advise us to “let go and let God.” The Law of Attraction tells us that we will bring to us the people, places, and experiences that match our “state of being.” It’s easy to see why some people might just get confused and/or frustrated.   I think that all of these approaches work if you believe they will (depending on your level of consciousness and to some degree destiny).   For me, goals often show up as “things I think I should want or should have” based on influences of the world around me. These things will not necessarily make me happy or bring me fulfillment. Otherwise, all rich people would be insanely happy and satisfied. Research shows that lottery winners are no happier one year after they have won than before they...
By sophia Andreeva on 5/19/2012 12:22 AM
Written by Evan Katz http://www.evanmarckatz.com/products/why-he-disappeared.php

My job as a dating coach is to look for patterns.   If I notice that you meet very few men in “real life” but refuse to date online, I’ll point out that it’s hard to fall in love if you only have three chances a year. If I notice that being negative about dating will make you less desirable to a man, I’ll point it out and suggest you withhold your judgments. If I notice that you’re holding out for a man who is spiritual, artistic, sensitive, emotionally available and makes $500,000 a year, I’ll point out that there are few creative types who are also alpha males in business and very few alpha males who are spiritual, artistic and available. You can either hold out for the handful that exist or adjust accordingly.   It only took three emails for me to notice a pattern in response to last week’s newsletter, which stated, in part: “Who attracts...
By sophia Andreeva on 5/19/2012 12:14 AM
So often I meet people who are loosing their mind about what they are doing wrong in the relationship and trying everything they can to make it work without any idea that they are dealing with a partner who simply has a passive aggressive personality and needs therapy.   Read this article - it has some great advice about how to save relationship with someone who is having a passive aggressive personality disorder: http://askdrrobert.dr-robert.com/passive-aggressive.html   Passive Aggressive Behavior, a Form of Covert Abuse By Cathy Meyer, http://divorcesupport.about.com/od/abusiverelationships/a/Pass_Agg.htm   Passive Aggressive Behavior Defined: Passive Aggressive behavior is a form of covert abuse. When someone hits you or yells at you, you know that you've been abused. It is obvious and easily identified. Covert abuse is subtle and veiled or disguised by actions that appear to be normal, at times loving...
By sophia Andreeva on 5/18/2012 11:49 PM

Makes my heart smile!
Just received today from one of my coaching clients - April 22nd, 2012:
"Sophia, I want you to know I met someone who I am hoping to spend the rest of my life with:). Also! The $400 I spent with you was so worth every penny! I took all of your Advice and made sure Not to get involved with a narcissi asshole, which I'm typically drawn to. My new guy is the complete opposite of that!!! Thank you!!!! Xxooo

By sophia Andreeva on 5/18/2012 11:42 PM
Sometimes when we argue our words go in one ear and out the other. Here's a new way of communicating. by Nancy Dreyfus, Psy.D. http://www.more.com/relationships/dating-sex-love/repair-your-relationship-flash

Think of all the times you and your partner have been in a terrific space—loving, warm, really in sync—and some little thing happens (what you would later call a little stupid thing), and suddenly you not only can’t get back to dreamy, you can’t get back to “normal.”     For instance: After a day of affectionate texting, you are about to leave for a romantic dinner—only one of you is now glued to the computer, and the other is getting agitated. The Online Person now resents having their delay interpreted as some form of insincerity, and before long, each sees the other as sabotaging the evening. In the restaurant, it’s civil but not friendly. Or… You’re in bed with your honey, and for some reason there’s...
By sophia Andreeva on 5/18/2012 11:38 PM
There is a lot of information out there on borderlines and narcissists but according to most psychological data borderlines are more commonly women and narcissists are more commonly men. What’s the difference? The differences can be subtle and hard to detect and I’m not going to go into it in this article. It is an article in itself. I feel it is more important to acknowledge that the further one strays from his/her true self, the less capable of intimacy that person is and the more deceptive he/she can be.   The greatest deception is the deception of the self as one paints a pretty picture over the top of a very wounded, fragmented, fearful, and needy self. The more wounded someone is the more he/she invests in convincing others how wonderful he or she is. This is why, often times, the most charismatic people are the most dysfunctional or disordered. Charm becomes a coping mechanism or ones method of seduction used to convince others of his/her greatness.   The greater the disorder the less likely one is to invest himself/herself in personal or spiritual growth. It doesn’t mean a severely personality disordered individual won’t go to seminar’s or to church, or even have a library of impressive books, but that person is not really able to look at himself/herself objectively. A deeply personality disordered individual also will not be able to have deep, intimate, self reflective conversations that involve taking responsibility for an action or behavior....
By sophia Andreeva on 5/18/2012 11:34 PM
By Acha Baba http://www.lovebringspeace.com/page12/page19/page19.html

The question of Love is twice as tricky when romantic love is in question. Romantic love is one of the most compelling temporary forces on the Planet. Romantic love doesn’t last, it’s a time-release phenomena. Blasphemy?! Romantic love borrows it authenticity from True Love, but adds an intoxicating mix of the body’s neuro-chemical imperatives. We also share life-force with a romantic partner, which creates a union that hurts to separate.   Our Spirit’s adventure on this planet comes through inhabiting a system of tubes covered with meat and skin that we call our body. We are ruthlessly wired to our body’s external perceptions and it’s internal chemistry. When we don’t have enough to eat, our bodies have a feedback mechanism called hunger that loudly proclaims its needs to us. We have feedback mechanisms for thirst, cold, physical pain, and all the needs of the body....
By sophia Andreeva on 5/18/2012 11:29 PM
By Professor Arthur Aron


"It is better to have loft and lost than to never have loft at all." — Groucho Marx Falling in love is a magical experience that happens between two people. So why do people fall in love? Professor Arthur Aron from State University of New York at Stonybrook has been exploring the dynamics of what happens when two people are falling in love:

Q:  What motivates people to seek out love? A:  Our primary motivation as human beings is to expand the self and to increase our abilities and our effectiveness. One of the ways we accomplish this is through our relationships with other people. We have learned in our research that it is important to feel that you have the ability to be an effective...
By sophia Andreeva on 3/8/2012 2:33 PM
By Brad Nehring on February 7, 2011 Sign up with Seattle’s ultra-exclusive personalized matchmaking service -- call Sophia directly at (206) 6830089. Big plans to lavish your significant other with chocolates, flowers and romance on the 14th? No? No problem. Just connect with local certified matchmaker, love and relationship expert Sophia McDonald for some overdue help in that department.

Sophia Andreeva has  professionally arranged dates since 2007 when she founded her company, Sophisticated Matchmaking — now an established boutique high-end matchmaking company. However, she stresses, setting people up is just one aspect of her work. “I call it the art of serendipity,” she explained, over coffee at her home office on Mercer Island. “Serendipity is when you are looking for something, but something else comes to you, and to...
By sophia Andreeva on 2/9/2012 11:31 PM
"I've never found it hard to date, but impossible to find a woman I would want to spend the rest of my life with. I was beginning to think I never would find such a person, and some of my friends thought that I was being too selective. When a friend of mine suggested Sophia as a matchmaker, I first thought "No way. I don't need that!" but then I thought "How could it hurt?" After our first meeting, Sophia had someone in mind for me, who turned out to be unavailable. She then introduced me to a couple other women who were very nice, but not the one for me. Then, after some time, the woman she first thought would be perfect for me became available, we met, and yes, Sophia was right. I am completely taken by this woman; we are a perfect fit for one another. Sophia has the power of great intuition and the true desire to help people find romance. I will always be thankful to her for seeing who would be right for me and introducing me to such a wonderful woman." ~ Male, 55yo, Seattle WA, February 9th, 2012

By sophia Andreeva on 12/22/2011 10:51 PM
THIS EMAIL MADE MY HEART MELT - I just received it today from one of my friends whom I have introduced to one of my current single clients: Sophia, I want to thank you for being so persistent with Julie. She mentioned to me she was reluctant to meet someone during the Holidays and how you said not to pass up on such a great guy as me, that one meeting could be life changing. Well that one meeting was life changing for me. I have dated enough to know not to let someone as special as Julie slip through my fingers, so to speak - and to think we almost did not get to meet J I hope this finds you feeling better (you were fighting a cold last week when we chatted on facebook). Warmest wishes to you and your son for a wonderful Holiday Season. Marc PS: I am thankful to you for staying in touch with me over these past few years and then when the time was right to send me Julie’s information – I have never met someone so genuine, caring, and beautiful.

By sophia Andreeva on 12/22/2011 10:48 PM

The Law of Paradoxical Intent

by Sandra Anne Taylor • Westlake, OH



The quantum field is just another label for the field of pure consciousness or pure potentiality. And this quantum field is influenced by intention and desire." ~ Deepak Chopra

The Law of Paradoxical Intent reflects the Law of Magnetism in warning that you'll only get a return of your own negative energy. If you're desperate to make something happen, that repulsive vibration will push it away, turning away the very people and situations that might bring your desired outcome. Your desperation, therefore, creates the paradox-or the opposite-of your original intention, leading you to failure instead of success.

The Universe wants you to achieve all that you desire, and when you align yourself with the Laws of Success, it will do everything...
By sophia Andreeva on 12/22/2011 10:37 PM
This an article by Robert Burney - the third of a three part series about inner child healing.  Part 1 of series Learning to Love your self  http://joy2meu.com/emotions.html

Feeling the Feelings - grief / emotional energy release   "Emotions are energy that is manifested in our bodies.  They exist below the neck.  They are not thoughts (although attitudes set up our emotional reactions.)  In order to do the emotional healing it is vital to start paying attention to where energy is manifesting in our bodies.  Where is there tension, tightness?  Could that "indigestion" really be some feelings?  Are those "butterflies" in my stomach telling me something emotionally?"

"We are all carrying around repressed pain, terror, shame, and rage energy from our childhoods, whether it was twenty years ago or fifty years ago.  We have this grief energy within us even if we came from a relatively...
By sophia Andreeva on 12/22/2011 10:20 PM



I recently posted an article from Scott and Shannon Peck on “Dating Mistakes that Block Soulmate Possibilities” where they talk about important things to be aware of while dating. Although I am not personally in the “dating” scene I can really appreciate their “no nonsense” approach. What stood out for me the most was when they talk about not continuing with someone who does not respect you. That is common sense for dating but what about long-term relationships?

How many of us stay in relationships with significant others who disrespect us on a daily basis? When we disrespect ourselves by allowing others to disrespect us we are giving that person the message that they don’t need to show us respect.

By sophia Andreeva on 11/22/2011 11:00 AM

Written by By Arielle Ford


Love is a feeling.
Love is a behavior.
Love is a choice.
Love is connection.
Love is the juiciest part of life.
Love opens our hearts, expands our world, and brings a smile to our lips.
For love we make commitments and agreements to share our life with another in good times and in bad.

By sophia Andreeva on 11/4/2011 11:40 AM

The whole idea of dating is to have fun, share meaning, and establish a potentially valuable relationship – and maybe even find your soulmate.
Often, that doesn’t happen. We make dating mistakes.
Most of them are avoidable. Anyone who has ever been on a date quickly recalls their worst dating mistakes. But the mistakes we make can be useful for future dates if we think through what went wrong.
Here are some dating mistakes that can block you from finding your soulmate.

By sophia Andreeva on 11/1/2011 1:20 PM
Written by Evan Marc Katz http://www.evanmarckatz.com

I’ve got a lot of theories about dating and relationships.   Whether you agree or not, my theories aren’t based on what I want to be true.   They’re based on the hundreds of women I dated, the thousands of women I’ve coached, and the many books I’ve read about relationships.   Which is not to say that I’m always right, but that when I offer you something, it’s an idea that has some measure of intellectual merit.   The latest theory I have is that there is a huge swath of men who can’t make ANYONE happy in the long run.   Any woman who dates one of these men will have fleeting moments of intense happiness…followed by many more moments of intense pain.   What makes my theory all the more confounding is this:...
By sophia Andreeva on 10/28/2011 11:28 PM



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By sophia Andreeva on 10/18/2011 10:13 PM
Written by Evan Marc Katz http://www.evanmarckatz.com

Over 1000 of you took the time to fill out my survey last week. You gave me your honest feedback about what I’m doing and how I can continue to support you in the future. What became abundantly clear after, oh, the first 954 responses, was that you’re craving more information, more clarity, more POWER over your own love life.   The #1 thing you want from me – by far - is how to understand men. That wasn’t a big surprise. After all, if men were easier to figure out, you’d already be in a healthy relationship, and I’d probably be out of a job.   I’m kidding, of course, but I’m very sympathetic to your frustrations and have made it my top priority to focus my energies on helping you “get” what makes men tick and how you can make better choices with your partners.

By sophia Andreeva on 10/18/2011 9:11 PM
For more advice on illusion free relationships, check out my book and ebook Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl in my bookshop.


Fantasy vs Reality: When you struggle to differentiate between what was real and what wasn’t by NML on OCTOBER 17, 2011


If you’ve ever said “I don’t know what was real and what was fake”, “But it’s hard to let go of the fantasy” , “It feels like I was in love with an illusion” or “I’m finding it really hard to move on and accept what has happened”, you’ve got reconciliation issues. When you’re faced with making fantasy and reality consistent with one another so that you can accept the truth of what has happened, what you feel, do, or are being, you opt for the illusions which basically suspends you in No Man’s Land while opening you up to problems in the real world. 

By sophia Andreeva on 10/18/2011 6:24 PM
Written by Evan Marc Katz



Have you ever been attracted to someone who is no good for you? Have you ever slept with a guy and immediately known it was going nowhere?

Have you ever wasted years longing for a man who never saw a future with you?

If so, you’re not alone.

Like pretty much everyone else in the world, were seduced by the irrational feeling of attraction - and you’ve paid the price for it in a thousand ways.

Today, I want to try to make sense of attraction and give it a proper context for you.

Perhaps when you understand attraction, you’ll be able to make different decisions based on it.


By sophia Andreeva on 10/18/2011 6:21 PM
Written by Arielle


Make-up sex. Break up sex. Mercy sex. Drive by sex. It’s easy sex. I just gotta have some sex. It’s better than nothing sex. Friends with benefits sex. Maybe this time it will be different sex.

Sound familiar?

These are just a few of the countless reasons why we might fall into bed with an Ex-lover. Unless a miracle has occurred, and your Ex has suddenly become your perfect right partner, having sex with your Ex is a mistake.


As soon as you get close enough to smell them, your brain chemistry is triggered, memories come flooding back and you begin to re-attach...

By sophia Andreeva on 10/5/2011 9:21 PM
Christy Whitman and her co-author Rebecca Grado, have just written a new book, Taming Your Alpha Bitch: How to be Fierce and Feminine (and get everything you want), that really addresses this issue and I've asked them to share their thoughts with us today.


Christy and Rebecca say: Many women have cast aside their feminine natures and taken up a more aggressive, masculine stance - in other words they've fallen into the trap of being an "Alpha Bitch".

Now don't be too quick to dismiss the alpha bitch as behaviors other gals do. Although most smart women stop short of over-the-top antics; it's probably safe to say that many other go-getters, are quite capable of pulling the "bitch card" every now and again.   And while there are certainly times when it's appropriate, it's holding you back more than you may think.   You see, the more aggressively you push to achieve your...
By sophia Andreeva on 10/4/2011 5:39 PM
Written By Evan Marc Katz http://www.evanmarckatz.com

Notice that I said “the perception of self-worth” and not “self-worth” itself. That’s because I’m guessing that, if you and I were to sit down and list your good qualities, we’d be conversing for a really long time. You’d tell me you’re a very loyal friend. You’d tell me you have a good sense of humor. You’d tell me you’re generous to your loved ones. You’d tell me that you’re kind and ethical. I have no doubt that, in listing these good qualities, you’d be telling the truth – from deep in your heart. You LIKE yourself.

By sophia Andreeva on 9/20/2011 2:03 PM
“Not all MatchMakers are created equal! Find out for yourself ~ Contact Sophisticated Matchmaking. Above and beyond your exectations! ” ~ From: Shelley Greco on Jul 27, 2011 “Sophia is exceptional. There are few people who can keep up with the level of performance.” ~ From: Ken Gronvold on Jul 23, 2011 “Sophia is an amazing and inspirational woman! She changes lives every day” ~ From: Jacquie Begemann on Jul 12, 2011 “Sophia is the most amazing and professional match maker and consultant, highly professional and supportive ” ~ From: Tom Lehner on Jun 25, 2011 “Sophia McDonald is a charming, successful woman. She brings a smile to everyone she meets.” ~ From: Frank Drake on Jun 20, 2011 “Sophia is amazing! She changes lives every day! She is a real asset to my group of friends. Get to know her today!” ~ From: Amazon Rivers on Jun 14, 2011  “Sophia is a great communicator and team player. Someone I would hire immediately if I were forming a new team....
By sophia Andreeva on 9/14/2011 10:07 AM
PLEASE SUPPORT me and VOTE for Sophisticated Matchmaking! We're thrilled to be nominated for the  Best Matchmaker In Western Washington! We WON in 2010!!!  Make us #1 in Western Washington in 2011! Click HERE to vote: http://best.king5.com/sophisticated-matchmaking-inc/biz/120799?r=short I appreciate your loyalty, referrals and support and would not achieve my success without your help!  THANK YOU!!!

By sophia Andreeva on 9/14/2011 10:00 AM
Sometime ago I had a post on my blog about "What men really want..."  and today I have received this message from of my FB friends. I felt that I had to share... Such a powerful message....  


Re: What Do Men Really Want?  I really liked this question you posted for a chance at giving. So I wanted to share my thoughts with you. I have been with my partner for 16 years and who became my husband 11 years ago. We were both very young at the impressionable ages of 20 and 22. I brought with me a signed divorce certificate and a two year old boy. 

By sophia Andreeva on 9/12/2011 5:50 PM

"Dear Sophia, 

I met my soul mate....we met and married in 3 months, both of us thinking we would never ever be married again. When you know, you know. Best wishes to you."

~Female, Seattle/ WA, September 2011


By sophia Andreeva on 9/6/2011 10:16 AM
Philosophy and Photo Shoots by  on AUGUST 30, 2011 In...
By sophia Andreeva on 9/6/2011 10:04 AM
The Last Week of My Life: Part 1 by JUSTINE on AUGUST 28, 2011  

By sophia Andreeva on 9/1/2011 12:32 AM
By Sam Louie, M.A., LMHCA Psychotherapist & Life Coach 


In the era of Facebook, men and women in the dating world are often not satisfied until their relationships are “FBO” or ”Facebook Official”. But before you can get to FBO, you must be officially boyfriend/girlfriend. This means getting your dating partner to make an exclusive commitment to you. 

It seems simple enough but I’m surprised by how many people are not aware of the DTR principle. DTR stands for “defining the relationship”. If you’re an adult in the dating relationship, you’re doomed to fail if you’re fearful of the dtr. With clients I’ve worked with, if they do not dtr the relationship, they end up either in the platonic friend zone or if they’ve been sexual with each other can end up in the “friends with benefits” category. The timing of the dtr talk is critical. In this hook-­‐ up culture, young men and women have no concept...
By sophia Andreeva on 8/24/2011 12:24 AM
Referred to by Oprah Winfrey as the Marriage Whisperer, Harville created Imago Relationship Therapy, a therapy for couples now practiced by over 2000 certified therapists in 30 countries. He is also the author of the New York Times bestseller Getting the Love You Want, which has sold over two million copies.

He believes that we select our mates in order to heal the wounds of our childhood and that we are brought together in order to “co-heal” each other. I asked him what his definition of a healthy relationship is...this is what he shared: #1 - The primary hallmark of a healthy relationship is having the experience of emotional and physical safety with our partner. They are reliable and predictable and we don’t feel any fear or anxiety around them. #2 - We have an experience of deep connection with them. #3 - When you are with your partner you feel joyfully alive or relaxed into joyfulness. As you set your intentions around manifesting a soulmate, you may want to consciously decide that you will feel safe, deeply connected and joyfully alive with your beloved....
By sophia Andreeva on 8/24/2011 12:15 AM

"I hired Sophia as my match maker and quickly realized she has a unique gift when it came to identifying who could be my ideal match. I have met a wonderful man through her that I would not have met through my own avenues and he fits all the major aspects of what I have been searching for, including great chemistry! In addition I used Sophia's relationship coaching services when I first met her, which truly helped me build my self confidence in the dating world, as well as to be more open minded about the process. I am not only impressed with Sophia's work but incredibly grateful to her!" -- August 2011, Female, 50yo, Seattle

By sophia Andreeva on 8/11/2011 12:24 PM
The Awakening~ 

There comes a time in your life when you finally get it ... When in the midst of all your fears and insanity you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out "ENOUGH! Enough fighting and crying or struggling to hold on." And, like a child quieting down after a blind tantrum, your sobs begin to subside, you shudder once or twice, you blink back your tears and through a mantle of wet lashes you begin to look at the world from a new perspective.

..........This is your awakening

You realize that it is time to stop hoping and waiting for something or someone to change, or for happiness safety and security to come galloping over the next horizon. You come to terms with the fact that there aren't always fairytale endings (or beginnings for that matter) and that any guarantee of "happily ever after" must begin with you. Then a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.

By sophia Andreeva on 5/4/2011 11:28 PM
Written by Ron Smothermon

When you experience life has a natural purpose, and doesn’t have to be manipulated in some particular way to be meaningful, you are then free to manipulate it consciously.  The content of life that is most meaningful to deal with is that which relates to relationships.  Commitment is the cornerstone of relationships. Without it there can be relating, but there can be no relationship.

Relationships exist within the framework of defined boundaries so that people know what they can and cannot expect from you.  Since commitments necessarily involve that which is relatively unchanging in life, and since the very nature of life is change, commitments are best made related to the most fundamental components of life. They are the simple things you are willing to have people count on you for.

By sophia Andreeva on 5/4/2011 11:24 PM
Conscious commitment is a pact between beings, rather than between personalities.  In effect, partners say to each other, “Whatever the problems our personalities have, together we will not let them get between us.  If our egos are at war, we will not let that ruin us.  If our egos are at war, we till not let that ruin our deeper connection…we will always come back and meet on this deeper level.  We will help each other wake up and become all that we can be.  We will keep opening to each other and to life itself in and through this relationship.”  With out such an alliance between our beings, our egos will likely conspire to perpetuate old habitual patterns and the container we create may become a prison or a hollow shell.  Conscious commitment is to being together, not just staying together.

Of course, two partners may connect deeply on the being level, yet still be unable to work things out on the personality level.  That is why the testing stage is so important.  If they cannot find ways to work on things...
By sophia Andreeva on 5/3/2011 7:57 PM
“Love is the exquisite exception that is a reflection of what is normal; what we mistakenly label as normal is the aberration…” ~ Stewart Emery ~

All of our lives we have been searching for the one thing that will ensure the quality of all experience and provide us with a “happy ever after,” free of the pain, anguish and separation we find in the world.  The thing that seems to hold the most promise for us, as far as furnishing us with the ultimate happy-ever-after, is the “perfect relationship.”

We expect to have absent from the relationship everything we don’t like about life.  Our expectations have been fed, since we were very small, a diet of Snow Whites, Cinderellas, and fairy godmothers, along with Prince Valiants and the Clark Kent-to-Superman transformation.  We grow up believing that some day our prince or princess will come and stay forever, as we share a state of bliss, untouched by the harshness of the realities of the world.

A beautiful dream, an exquisite fantasy – let us now...
By sophia Andreeva on 2/28/2011 12:59 PM
Keeping the magic of love alive:  Feelings that we could not express in our past suddenly flood our consciousness when we are safe to feel. Love thaws out repressed feelings, and gradually these unresolved feelings begin to surface into our relationship.  We are all walking around with a bundle of unresolved feelings.  When we feel safe to be ourselves, our hurt feelings come-up.  For years we have suppressed our painful feelings.  Then one day we fall in love, and love makes us feel safe enough to open up and become aware of our feelings.  Love opens us up and we start to feel our pain.  When the unresolved feelings from childhood are coming up, we easily interpret our partner’s comments as criticism, rejection, and blame. Keeping the magic of love alive:  Feelings that we could not express in our past suddenly flood our consciousness when we are safe to feel. Love thaws out repressed feelings, and gradually these unresolved feelings begin to surface into our relationship.  We are all walking around with a bundle...
By sophia Andreeva on 2/8/2011 1:18 AM

By Brad Nehring on February 7, 2011

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By sophia Andreeva on 2/3/2011 11:48 PM

Lisa Rayanne

 Sophia, I love this video – You did a magnificent job of touching on all of your areas of specialty, including your unique individualized coaching strategy through the entire dating lifecycle. You absolutely have a gift for successfully providing successful outcomes through your experience and personalized attention to the individuals you work with. I like how you also mention the fact that so much money can be spent on dates that are not a fit – whether the cost be in dollars, time lost on matches that bring no long term potential, or lost opportunities due to repeated behavior patterns that allow dating to end prematurely. There is an absolute savings and success factor that is to be accounted for in working with you. Your honest,...
By sophia Andreeva on 2/2/2011 4:17 PM
Written Marla Sloane, Ph.D.

The thought of Valentine’s Day conjures up romantic evenings, a candlelight dinner, and long walks with your loved one. It is, without a doubt the most romantic day of the year. So how could you possibly be expected to enjoy Valentine’s Day when you’re alone? Well, while it might not be all hearts and flowers, you can still spread the message of Valentine’s Day: Love.  Over the years, I’ve interviewed numerous people and asked them what their favorite Valentine’s Day memory was. Surprisingly, very few couples actually mentioned a gift or a special night out. In fact, most of the people I interviewed remembered their special Valentine’s Day by things they did for others. Gifts they gave, whether they were store bought or home made, gave them an unforgettable feeling of joy and happiness.

By sophia Andreeva on 2/2/2011 4:11 PM
Valentine’s Day -- a day of exchanging flowers, cards, and loving sentiments punctuated with warm feelings of admiration, affection, and infatuation. But for millions of Americans, there is one thing preventing them from participating in these celebratory acts of love: a date.

Being dateless on Valentine’s Day can evoke feelings of loneliness and self-doubt, especially for those who are believers in the mythology of true love. Embedded midway through the frosty season of winter, it is portrayed in the media, particularly in relentless flower, fragrance, and jewelry advertising, as the singular day of year set aside for love, romance, and passion.

But what is a person to do when he or she is feeling the chilling blues of being single instead of embracing the fiery desire of love?

By sophia Andreeva on 1/30/2011 11:34 PM
Written by Lila Chrysikou


Consider the following questions.  What do they have in common?

How many sexual partners do you want over your lifetime?

Would you go to bed with an attractive stranger of the opposite sex?

Would you be more upset if your romantic partner had passionate sexual intercourse with someone else or formed a deep, emotional attachment with that person?

How important is physical attractiveness in a potential romantic partner?

How many pairs of shoes do you own?



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